8 roadblocks to healing

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From my own very long journey back to health from chronic fatigue, depression and many other ailments, plus working with hundreds of women, I have noticed there are certain habits, traits, beliefs or patterns which will halt progress in its tracks. Here they are…

1. ‘HEALING WILL HAPPEN OVERNIGHT OR IN ONE SESSION’

This is one of the biggest misnomers that people looking for a solution will have: expecting healing to happen overnight, or even in a few weeks.

Why is it unrealistic to think this?

Because in 99% of cases, illness takes years to build up in the body, even before symptoms are noticed, and expecting an overnight change, without making the necessary changes within ourselves we need to make, is the biggest mind trick ever. In every client I have yet worked with, the actual ‘set up’ happens within the first 10 years of life, but it is not apparent at this time.

Partly this expectation is fueled by our healthcare system which does offer ‘quick fixes’ in the form of medication or surgery. For example, anti-depressants can take effect in a few days or weeks, allowing us to continue on with our daily life as before, without ever asking the question ‘why am I ill in the first place?’ Blood pressure pills can balance our blood pressure in days, but if we don’t explore why the pressure is out of balance in the first place, we are just placing the proverbial plaster on the wound.

The problem with this is, unless we discover and address what created the symptoms, the real problem is not being addressed, and symptoms are merely being masked, and will usually re-occur in some other form sooner or later.

Advertising also fuels this misnomer. How many ads have you watched telling you that if you have the flu or a strained back ‘just take xyz medication’ and you can get on with your day as if nothing has happened? No! If your body is sending you symptoms, it is asking you to take stock of what is going on in your life to understand what has brought it into this state of ‘dis-ease’. If you have the flu, the natural intelligence of your body is telling you it needs to rest and repair. Your body is not a machine and it deserves your care and respect! If you have chronic fatigue syndrome, your body is telling you to stop and re-assess your whole life, and how you are ‘doing’ life. Every symptom has a message which is waiting to be interpreted, and this must be done.

So expecting your body to self-repair overnight or in one session is simply unrealistic, and this must be understood and accepted. Then the real work of healing (which means ‘to become whole’) can begin.

2. THINKING ONE THERAPY WILL SORT ALL MY PROBLEMS

Often we can think that one therapy will be the one-stop-shop solution.

In my experience as a practitioner working with many clients, this is less likely to be the case. For my personal experience, I had to test and implement a number of methods to get results.

Whilst some people can hit on one therapy which will be the one ‘miracle cure’, the percentage of people this happens to is much less, and in my personal experience I would say about 5% of people are this fortunate. For the other 95%, we are going to have to use more than one approach.

Why is this?

Because finding and addressing the real root cause of illness, and all the many potential contributing factors, is not that simple. There may be physical factors, emotional reasons, belief and thinking factors, dietary issues, geopathic stress, environmental issues,  toxic issues, people issues, genetic or epigenetic issues, lifestyle and habit factors which need to be addressed. The list is long.

Many therapies are developed to focus on one particular issue, and may be perfect for that, and brilliant at addressing that one particular issue, but just like expecting ‘one religion to fit all’, it is unrealistic to expect that a therapy will address all causes.

So for example supplements can help with nutritional deficiencies, but they will not address the trauma and stress of dealing with an abusive partner which is creating the ‘dis-ease’ in the digestive system in the first place.

Plus what works for one person will not necessarily work for another! Which is why it is so important to follow our ‘gut’ feeling to find what ‘feels‘ right for us, and why healing is a journey of self-discovery. We must be prepared that we may need to use multiple approaches and that this will not happen overnight.

In my experience, getting well from a chronic illness is a cumulative process, where finding and implementing different strategies will eventually, sooner or later, help us to reach our goal of wellness.

3. ‘I WANT TO BE WELL BY’… (A CERTAIN DATE)

This is a very common expectation, especially if we have been ill for a long time. Of course we want to be well again, but putting time deadlines on the body does not work at all. In fact, it slows down progress because it puts our body under pressure to achieve a result it cannot achieve without right understanding of what has caused the problem, and right rectification of that problem.

A much better question to ask is ‘what is it I need to learn or change in my life in order to bring my body back into balance? What is it I need to do to stop damaging my body‘. Once we discover this, and implement it, and once our super intelligent body sees that we mean for real to live our life in a healthier way, and we have proven that we are no longer going to ‘damage’ it with negative beliefs, behaviours and actions, it will bring itself back into health. It doesn’t want to be unwell any more than you do, but it will keep you unwell if there are still lessons to be learned.

4. SOMEONE OR SOMETHING (OUTSIDE OF ME) WILL FIX ME

While it is true, useful and sometimes very necessary that we receive emergency treatment, medication or surgery, we must look at the bigger picture. We must understand that our body is a self-healing mechanism that can and will self-heal given the right circumstances.

The more we understand this, the more self-responsibility we can start to take for our health. We become more aware of what it is that WE are doing to create or perpetuate illness. Then we can start to make necessary changes and get a different result. As the saying goes ‘the definition of insanity is doing the same thing again and again and expecting a different result‘.

Initially it may feel scary to feel that we play such a huge role in our health, but ultimately when we take back our power and become self-masterful, it is a highly satisfying and empowering experience.

5. ‘I’VE TRIED EVERYTHING’

When a client comes to me and says ‘I’ve tried everything’ my first question will be to get a specific list of what ‘everything’ means. Usually I find although it may seem like a long list to the person, it is not nearly ‘everything’. Usually the number will be somewhere between 5 and 20 therapies.

Having tried and tested nearly 200 therapies myself, and trained professionally in 20, I know that I am also nowhere near to ‘trying everything’! There are an abundance of health modalities in the world today, and the more countries and cultures you experience, the more health approaches you will discover. On my journey to discover solutions to my illness, I travelled to Egypt, Mexico, USA, Canada, Costa Rica, Guatamala, UK, Fiji, Australia, New Zealand and more and discovered some truly unique therapies!

So whether you have tried 5 or 50 therapies, why is it that thinking we have ‘tried everything’ will prevent our progress? Well, for 3 core reasons:

  1. When we think we have ‘done it all’, we close our mind to new possibilities, and when our mind is closed, it cannot learn something new. In order for the change and transformation we are seeking to occur, we MUST be open to new information and possibilities, otherwise we are doing the ‘same old same old’ again and again, even if it is with a different method.
  2. We may often have tried many therapies, but have you yet tried the right approach for what you need? If we are not using an approach that addresses the real root cause of the symptom, then it is unlikely we will find the answer. Most people are unaware that many health approaches never get near the root cause.
  3. If we really have tried multiple therapies and nothing is working, then we need to ask ourselves one question: ‘what is the common denominator here?’ – and of course it’s us! Which means there must be something in us which is not yet changing or open to change, and this holds the key to the breakthrough we are looking for. It also means there is some vital piece of the puzzle which is still missing. We must find this piece, and this is precisely what I offer in my foundation ‘Kiwi Health Detective Session‘. In one 90 minute session we discover those missing pieces.

6. ‘I ALREADY KNOW THAT’

Similar to ‘I’ve tried everything’, the thought that we already know the answer will block our ability to see and hear new possibilities. We must keep our mind open to new information.

We must also let go of what we think we know and develop ‘beginners’ mind’.

As ancient Masters say “You cannot fill a cup that is already full. Empty the cup first”.

Even if you think you already know it, let go of the urge to think or say this when receiving advice from an expert, because they may just say something which could change your life. Which brings me to the last point…

7. THINKING PHYSICAL SYMPTOMS ARE CAUSED BY SOMETHING PHYSICAL

Now this piece of information is probably one the BIGGEST mindset changes that blows people’s minds if this is the first time they have heard it!

Physical symptoms are less likely, than more likely, to be caused by something that has nothing to do with any physical! Of course this goes against the grain of much of our ‘education’.

For me it was the missing piece of the puzzle: for years I tried physical therapies, never realizing that what was going on my mind and emotions was affecting my body. But as you will discover, everything we feel and think changes our chemistry, and chemistry is what makes our cells; when we feel and experience good-feeling thoughts and emotions, this will have a beneficial impact on our cells. When we feel and experience negativity and negative emotions, this will lead our cells to experience something completely different. This is why learning to keep ourselves ’emotionally clear’ is necessary for health, as well as happiness.

8. THINKING WE CAN DO IT WITHOUT HELP

Whether we like it or not, we all have our ‘blind sides’ where we cannot see our ‘stuff’. The interesting thing is, other people can see our stuff!

I remember the day I realized I was super stressed: one day I just became aware that I was really, really stressed, and that I needed to do something about it for the good of my health. The funny thing was, as I saw this, I knew I had been this way for years, but until that moment I had not ‘re-cognized’ it consciously. Upon having the recognition, I then saw that everyone else had been seeing it, but not me!

As human beings we are simply ‘not aware of what we are not aware of’, until we become aware. This is the key to healing most illnesses and unhappiness: becoming aware of what we were previously unaware of, and then having new choices.

As the saying goes, we can never see ‘the dark side of the moon’, and so it is with human consciousness. We need help to see our blind side, and this is why a coach is so invaluable and can save you years of  pain and thousands of dollars in wasted effort.

IN SUMMARY

Recovering from chronic illness is not easy. It can often bring us to our knees, but there is a reason for it, and lessons to be learned, and a gift in the journey. We must be prepared to put in the work, to persevere, to commit to ourselves no matter what.

As one of my first teachers said “healing is a journey of transformation: when you heal you change and are never the same again”. True healing requires that we transform and transcend our previous self. This is going to require change on all levels: mental, emotional, physical and spiritual. Often illness is a sign we have gone off track, and it is a way of bringing us back on track.

Illness is never random, it always has a message, a story, a meaning. It is our body trying to tell us something, because our natural state is to be healthy, so if we are experiencing anything but this, it means we need to do and learn whatever it is to return to our natural state of health, which is possible.

In the words of Winston Churchill, “never, never, never give up”.

About the author

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Kim Knight is a health and empowerment coach who helps women ‘who do too much but value themselves too little’ to take back control of their life. www.kimknighthealth.com

 

Crisis? What (Health) Crisis?

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“And if you know who you are,
You are your own superstar
And only you can shape the music that you make”

Supertramp, Easy Does It

Back in the 80’s one of my favourite bands was Supertramp. Even though I would sing along to the lyrics, I never really took much notice of the words and didn’t understand their meaning. As my life understanding has expanded and evolved over the years, their words are making more and more sense. Whilst the lyrics of their songs pertained to the world in general, my topic of course is around health.

Without wanting to put too fine a point on it, ladies and gentleman, when it comes to our healthcare system and our understanding of health, we are in crisis.

The sad thing is, most people are not aware of this. They believe that getting ill is normal, and that there are no known reasons for this happening. They believe the body has made a mistake, is stupid and should operate at 100% capacity even when we are unconsciously doing things to it to consistently break it down. They believe it’s OK to fill it with drugs or cut bits out of it, and that this is the normal and natural way of doing things. Let me tell you, whilst this may be normal, it is certainly not natural, and there is a better way.

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Unfortunately we appear to live in a society, in our so-called ‘advanced’ Western world, where it is not until we actually get ill that we think of implementing healthcare procedures. Our healthcare system is built on the philosophy and practice of going to the doctor once you already have symptoms in order to receive a diagnosis, which is generally followed by the suggestion of a cure or quick fix (most often by way of medication or surgery). In our so-called sophisticated world, this is considered normal. I can assure you it is nothing of the sort.

I too used to think this was normal. I grew up in the UK and the only healthcare option I ever knew of for the first 28 years of my life was going to a doctor. It never entered my mind that there may be other options. By the age of 7 I had experienced severe hayfever (for which I was given strong antihistamines) and ongoing ear infections, flus, sore throats and consequently had my tonsils taken out at age 5 (thus depriving me of the very parts of my immune system which were actually doing their job of endeavouring to keep me healthy), to name just a few of the ailments I experienced. Never did my parents think there could be a reason for these symptoms beyond either randomness and bad luck or ‘it’s the pollen and bugs’.

By the age of 18 years I had experienced appendicitis (the offending appendics being taken out, there goes more of my immune system), shingles (no medication available, just weeks of bed rest), excruciating bladder infections (requiring invasive surgical procedures and drugs), intense thrush infections (yet more medication), yet more hayfever and nosebleeds (requiring yet more antihistamines) to name a few more of the ailments I experienced.  Always the answer was to go to the doctor, be given an option of either medication or surgery, and that was apparently the answer. There was never, ever, any questioning as to why the symptoms were there in the first place, and did they have an intelligent reason?

Now, let me say, and I have said this before, I am not anti-medication or anti-doctor. No, indeed not at all. I am highly grateful to both these healthcare solutions, but the reality is, we must start to wake up to the reality that these solutions are not the only answer, and often or mainly represent in truth the ambulance at the bottom of the cliff solution. Physical symptoms are the end result of a body and mind which is not happy. Our body may not be happy mentally, it may not be happy emotionally, it may not be happy physically, and dare I say it (because this word is almost taboo in our society) it may not be happy spiritually. We must look deeper if we want to find the cause of our illness or dis-ease.

What Crisis?

“We may have the latest hifi systems and super-duper home lighting systems, but do we actually know how to operate our own body?”
Kim Knight

So what is the crisis I am talking about here?

It’s a crisis of awareness… or rather of ignorance… and in particular of being ignorant (which means to ‘ignore’) the truth of what is. We are very much unaware, despite the fact we feel so advanced with all our whizz-bang technologies, of what really causes illness and how to rectify it without medication or surgery: we may have the latest hifi systems, or super-duper home lighting systems, or luxury jet liners and superyachts, and many other amazing technologies, but do we actually know how to operate our own body? For most people the answer to this is a definitive no – we are highly ignorant as to the internal workings of our body and mind. Our consciousness and awareness it seems have a long way to go in catching up.

And herein lies the problem. We wait until we are in crisis before doing anything, because we are unaware of the damage that is happening to our health before things get too late and we are already ill with symptoms. We do not recognize (‘re-cognize’ with our mind) the signs along the way. We think it is normal to get ill, when it really is not. We are unaware of what creates illness, or health, and many people are unaware that options beyond even medication or surgery even exist!

This was how it was for me 30 years ago. I had no idea there were other options, until life became so bad I was forced to seek out other options because what I was doing was not working. And thank goodness there were, and are, many other options to be found. And even though these options exist right now, apparently less than 0.1% of the population are aware of them! Not even one percent!

Time for Change

Recently at a healthcare congress in New Zealand it was made quite clear to delegates that our current level of healthcare costs are already unsustainable, and predicted to get worse unless something changes. Healthcare spending is the highest budgetary item for government right now, and most of it still focuses on the ambulance at the bottom of the cliff approach to healthcare.

At the same conference, a doctor shared how in only 40% of doctors visits is a health diagnosis usually made, and only 5% of the time can the cause of illness normally be determined.

The very sad fact is, there are many therapies available today which do know how to identify the cause of illness, (many of which I have trained in), but unfortunately, we still live in a society which is unaware that these other solutions exist. It’s a sad fact, and a fact which must change if our healthcare system is to improve.

People must learn that it is they themselves who must take a high degree of responsibility for their health. If we learn to be in tune with our mind, emotions, body, spirit and environment, we can learn to spot the signs of illness before they manifest as symptoms. This is all possible, and is the highest level of prevention and self care.

We can also learn what really causes illness in order for our body to bring itself back into balance without medication or surgery. It is all possible, it is all here now, if you know where to look, who to go to for help and how to implement these rather different healthcare strategies. It is all possible right now, but the question is, are you ready for this? Are you ready to take radical responsibility for your health, to become self-masterful in all areas of your wellbeing? Or would you prefer to rely on something external, or even internal (meds, supplements) to change your bio-chemistry? Are you ready for a new era in healthcare?

Because you see, you must be open, ready and willing to see new horizons if you want to experience something new or different. A closed or fearful mind will not see these opportunities, as I have also written about in other blogs (eg ‘when perception is reality‘, ‘misperception the missing piece‘,’perceptual blindness – a barrier to healing‘and many more).

Despite the fact that many people are not yet ready for these answers, often because they have not yet experienced enough pain to want or need to change, there are many people who are looking for new solutions. And primarily it is to these people that I am speaking.

I know what it is like to want to have other options, and not to know where to look for them or find them. It’s disheartening and frustrating, and just prolongs the amount of time it takes to get well, not to mention the amount of money we may end up spending on healthcare solutions. Recently I watched a news item about a man needing a drug to ‘cure’ his cancer which cost $150,000. I was staggered. Seriously? It doesn’t have to be this way if you know why the body builds tumours, ie, the meta physical (‘beyond physical’) reasons behind illness, and how given the right conditions the body is designed to self-heal.

As I have said before, we do not need to wait until we are in a personal health crisis to look after our health, although many people unfortunately do. We can learn to spot the signs of illness before they happen, although for many of us (including myself) we often first have to get ill and then work backwards to understand the signs that were already there but we never spotted at the time! We humans are slow learners, and as one of my very first teachers said to me “we think we are so clever, but really we are still in Kindergarten”.

My wish for humanity is that we wake up en masse to the healthcare solutions that are already here, but not yet well known, and start to take advantage of them sooner rather than later. If we truly want to improve our personal health, and that of our healthcare system as a whole, we must do this, there is no other way out of our global healthcare crisis.

Which is why I say ‘self care – a revolution in healthcare‘ – the responsibility lies with each and every one of us to learn that taking care of our own health from the inside out is the only way to go, and ultimately brings the greatest results and highest levels of personal satisfaction. This is true sustainability.

Be well🙂

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“You’re holding the world in the palm of your hand,
Watch’ya tellin’ your children you don’t understand

If you know what the meaning is

Oh-oh so you better beware,
So you better get, so you better get light in your head,
So you better get, so you better get peace in your head…”

Supertramp, from the album Crisis? what Crisis?

Kim Knight is a leader in a new era of healthcare. You can find out more at kimknighthealth.com

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Dr Spock talks Health and Innovation

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“No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it.”
Albert Einstein

Imagine if you will, Dr Spock landing on earth for the first time and trying to convince people it really is possible to transport themselves to a spaceship by disassembling their molecules and then re-assembling them several seconds later in space. Most people would call him crazy and say it was impossible. Most people would think this type of thinking was in the realm of science fiction. And the reason they would do this is because this possibility is so far from their current level of reality, and they have not yet personally experienced such a phenomenon themselves, that they literally cannot comprehend or entertain even the idea of the possibility of it being true.

This was a bit how I felt at the New Zealand Healthcare Congress in Auckland this week.

The main theme of the congress was ‘Technology enabled Healthcare’ and how the health requirements of New Zealanders can be served via newly emerging technologies. As a business which relies heavily on technology, with all healthcare solutions I provide being done so remotely and online, I was curious to see what I could learn by attending.

A second core topic under discussion was the government’s newly published ‘New Zealand Health Strategy 2016-26′, and how we in New Zealand want to see our healthcare system progressing over this period to meet the needs of its citizens.

Technological Change and Yet Not Enough Change?

It is quite clear that over the past 50 years, and especially in the last 10, our world has irrevocably changed as a result of technological progress.

Personally speaking, my business has significantly transformed in the last 10 years as a direct result of these technological advancements: all client consultations are now conducted remotely online to and from anywhere in the world, and many clients are learning how to take care of their health through remote self-help 24/7 online programs. These healthcare delivery options were not even in my consciousness 10 years ago when I only saw clients face-to-face in clinic, and I had never even dreamt of the idea of delivering online healthcare 10 years ago in 2006.

These significant advancements are also affecting the overall health system in New Zealand, and indeed the entire world, and they have the potential to radically transform healthcare in an enormously positive way.

But there is another factor which needs to change alongside these technological advancements if we are to truly harvest the rewards of technological progress, and that is a change inside the human consciousness that is creating and delivering the solutions. And specifically what needs to change is the understanding of what either creates or dis-creates health or illness at a fundamental level. 

If we have brand spanking-new technology, but are delivering the same, albeit-improved, healthcare solutions via this technology, without also upgrading our understanding of the root cause of the problem (ie the real cause of disease, understanding the laws of health etc), then in effect not much, or not enough, will change as an end-result for the end-user (client/patient), or the system, or world, as a whole.

In other words, even if we have whizz-bang online patient portals which significantly reduce the likelihood of error in record-keeping, and where healthcare providers and patients can instantaneously access health records, or Watson-like machines which can remember and sift through a gazillion terrabites of data in seconds to draw a diagnostic conclusion, or sci-fi like body scanners which can assess the physiological status of a patient without internal examination (which are all phenomenal feats and advancements in themselves)… if the same solutions are being delivered to patients from the same old thinking (for example, illness is either random or genetic, and the overriding solution is medication or surgery) then our health system will fundamentally not change, and the financial burden which is currently weighing the country down will continue to increase.*1

A New Paradigm of Healthcare 

You may have heard the story of a ship appearing off shore on the horizon and the inhabitants on land could not see the ship?

In the film ‘What the Bleep do we know?’ Dr Candice Pert describes how “When the tall European ships first approached the early Native Americans, it was such an ‘impossible’ vision in their reality that their highly filtered perceptions couldn’t register what was happening, and they literally failed to ‘see’ the ships.”

Apparently also “South Americans could see the boats that the explorers landed in, but not the ships anchored offshore. Their shaman stared out to sea and by imagining what he was looking for, was finally able to make out the ships. He was then able to point them out to others, until at last everyone could see the ships. The shaman could do this because he alone was open to the possibilities of strange things from other worlds”.

The story actually traces back to Captain Cook and his landing in Australia in April 1770. When Cook arrived off Australia, his ship drew no reaction. According to the historian Robert Hughes: “It was the largest artefact ever seen on the East Coast of Australia, an object so huge, complex and unfamiliar as to defy the natives’ understanding.” *2

This was how I felt many of my ideas and suggestions were received at the Healthcare Congress this week!

When I stood up and shared how it is already possible to identify the real root cause of symptoms and many health conditions, and how it is already possible to recover from many chronic and debilitating health conditions without medication or surgery, it was as though I was Dr Spock trying to explain the unimaginable or impossible. Because for the people listening to what I was saying, this was (is) how it was for them in their minds. It is currently unimaginable for them.

Interestingly enough one doctor stood up and shared how only 40% of patient visits to a doctor to find the cause of their symptoms, result in an actual diagnosis, (ie, a doctor is often only able to diagnose a specific health condition 40% of the time). He also shared that only in 5% of cases were the real cause of the illness or symptoms determined. Which means that 95% of the time, doctors are unable to explain to a patient why they are ill.

As I sat there and listened to this, I recognised a startling fact: what I, and my colleagues who work in a similar fashion, are doing is the other 95%! We fill that gap! Imagine how phenomenal it would be if we could come together and pool our information and resources? What difference would that make to the healthcare system? It would transform beyond recognition, and the quality of life for our society would be significantly improved.

But the stumbling block, as I so clearly experienced during the congress, is that this leap forward will require an openness and willingness from the currently prevading healthcare system, (which it appears to me primarily focuses on addressing symptoms with medication or surgery), to listen to this new information from people like myself and my colleagues who have a radically different, and dare I say it ‘evolved’, understanding of what it takes to get ill, (and get well).

Despite the fact that scientists such as Dr Bruce Lipton, (who has for some time now proven that genetic expression is a product of the environment, and genes are therefore not set in stone and unchangeable), old ways of thinking are still running the show. And these old ways of thinking are developing and running the new technology, which is and will severely limit overall and long-term progress. 

Despite the fact a pie chart in one of the congress presentations** clearly showed that 60% of factors influencing health correlate with behaviour, lifestyle, social and environment, (as opposed to 10% healthcare [presumably via the current prevailing medical model] and 30% genetics [which we now know has been surpassed by epigenetics]), medication and surgery are still apparently (according to most delegates at this conference anyway) considered the primary solution for most illnesses.

Despite the reality that it has in recent times been openly admitted as a fact, (a fact which was openly noted during the conference), that over 50% of most published research findings are false, mainstream medical practitioners still will not respect many of the proven, effective solutions which have already helped hundreds of thousands of people to transform their lives and which are offered by non-medical healthcare providers, unless they have double-blind randomised clinical trials for these therapies.

So it seems to me something still needs to change!

Misunderstanding

The last session of the congress was a collaborative exercise where we came together in small groups to share and discuss how we would like to see the healthcare system in 2021, 5 years from now, which is half way through the 2016-2026 plan.

As I sat and shared my desire of seeing clients educated in what creates illness, and educated in how to bring themselves back to health without medication and prevent further illness (which I am already offering right now, but would like to see happen on a bigger scale), my suggestions were met with disbelief, even with disdain by some. One lady turned to me and categorically stated she did not want to take responsibility for her health, and that she wanted a doctor to do that.

At first I was shocked. It is so long since I have not felt that I am the main person responsible for my health that I had forgotten that I too, 30 years ago, used to think the same way. Back then, before I went through a significant transformation in consciousness as a result of my own 20 year journey of chronic illness, I only thought of going to a doctor to get medication or have surgery, as an answer to whatever ailment I may have had. This was how the first 28 years of my life were spent, but that all changed, and now I have a radically different understanding of health, which is by the way constantly evolving.

I sat and pondered as the group continued to discuss our brain-stormed ideas, and realized that this lady was interpreting my ideas through her present reality of what it means ‘to take care of oneself’. Her idea of self care is radically different to mine, although she does not see that. For example her idea of self care may mean she chooses the dosage of her medication or what medication to take (which obviously needs to be done by someone qualified to do so), where as mine is how to learn and follow the laws of health to recover from illness and prevent reoccurrence of symptoms. So I realised she had a valid point, but given the fact we were allocated a grand total of 5 minutes to discuss everyone’s ideas, it was impossible to elucidate further at the time.

The groups were then called to gather around a whiteboard to share their findings as a collective. By this time my idea had been completely discarded, (along with other people’s ideas because we could only choose one for the main group discussion), the group favouring to focus on an effective patient portal for dissemination and accessing of patient records (which in itself is a great idea). Other suggestions from other groups were also being put forward. So I decided to stand back and observe the process of the discussion.

It became quite clear to me, that despite the validity of the ideas being proposed, which undoubtedly will make a positive difference for the healthcare system when enacted, they were still being proposed from the same level of consciousness that created the old (current) system. And as Einstein famously quoted “No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it.”

And here I was offering an idea from outside and beyond the consciousness that has created the current system, and no-one could take it on board, because they were not yet ready to hear it. The fact that I was, as far as I know, the only natural healthcare practitioner in the room, (which just classifies me as a healthcare practitioner without a medical degree but does not mean I do not have significant professional training), just goes to show what a minority natural healthcare practitioners are still considered to be, and how insignificant our ideas our regarded in the overall context of the current prevailing healthcare system).

Funnily enough, before the group collaboration began, we were given instructions on how to do the group brainstorming exercise, and were specifically told by the convener “You cannot change a problem from the same level of consciousness that created it”. And yet here we were as a group, envisaging the future, doing exactly that!

In his presentation just one hour earlier, Dr Dr Jens Mueller (and yes, that is meant to be ‘Dr’ x 2), Dr Mueller spoke on the topic of ‘what is innovation’? He postulated that innovation is ‘the reality of no things, and that imagination clears all physical hurdles, and that innovation is making true what does not exist’. He suggested in no uncertain terms that in order to change and create something better than what we already have, we must ‘focus on what does not exist’.

The amusing thing about this is, much of our healthcare system cannot even see what already does exist as a reality, (although not in their reality), never mind something which has not yet come into existence!

So you can see why our healthcare system is in trouble! Many of the solutions ARE already here (and there are more to come) but until people are ready to hear them they will remain invisible, just like the ship on the horizon.

An Individual Viewpoint

This made me think, after I returned home ‘so what is it that needs to happen for the current healthcare system to understand this new potential, this new paradigm in healthcare, which for some of us is already here, but for most still currently sounds like science fiction?

And I asked myself, ‘what is it, on an individual level, rather than societal level, that enables the clients that come to me for these solutions, who are ready to understand and take advantage of this new reality , that enables them to self-heal from conditions considered incomprehensible by many doctors’? *3

And this is the conclusion I came to:

Usually, by the time clients come to see me, they have already tried several, if not many other therapies, including traditional doctors and natural health therapists. But no-one has up until now been able to explain the fundamental cause of their symptoms, and therefore offer them a working-solution. Usually up until now they have either been offered something to dull or mask the pain (eg medication or surgery) or something to change the situation in an external way (even though it may also be taken internally, eg, supplements).

Before I go on, let me say I am not saying that these solutions are not either useful or necessary. I am just saying they are not the whole picture.

But here’s the important point relevant to the idea of quantum leaps in evolution:

By the time clients come to me, they are often at the end of their tether, and their life is severely disrupted. They are exhausted, in pain, and the symptoms are constant and ongoing. Some may be so ill they have had to stop work, while others may still be working but barely able to do so. Mentally and emotionally this brings overwhelm and even feelings of ‘how can I make it another day?’

The result of this wearing-down, metaphorically, and for some literally, brings them to their knees and to a place of “I’m willing to do whatever it takes to get well, if someone will just tell me what that is“. In other words, we reach a place of DESPERATION where we are willing to SURRENDER our current mindset and beliefs around what will and will not work, and are OPEN to new possibilities.

That is, we reach a CRISIS POINT where something has to break down in order to build something new, and that ‘something’ is our consciousness and viewpoint on health. We are willing to LET GO OF THE OLD and OPEN (OUR MIND) TO THE NEW. And then we are willing (in the case of clients who work with me) TO DO THINGS DIFFERENTLY.

This is very much what happened for me personally on my 20 year journey to find health. After trying over 140 different therapies over a period of 5 years, and experiencing little to no change in my chronic fatigue symptoms, I got to a point of surrender, and that was my turning point. But even before that, I had an initial turning point when I decided I was willing to do whatever it took to get better, no matter the cost. A recent 88 year old client, herself having suffered over 55 years of chronic fatigue and depression, and who got well within 6 months following one of my online Mickel Therapy programs, said the same thing when I spoke with her after her recovery: in her words “I decided I was willing to do anything, I simply was not going to spend my remaining few years feeling this ill”.

Openness and Willingness to Change

So one of the essential keys to change is an openness and willingness to see and do things differently. This requires courage and a certain level of what seems like risk, because for most of us we have not done this, or been here before. This is new territory!

Another factor which can influence people’s urge to change is when we hear startling stories of medical misadventure such as shared by Jake Bailey at the gala dinner during the congress. Whilst Jake emphasised many times during his speech that his life had literally been saved by all the carers, medication and technology at the hospital, and that he is eternally grateful to the staff whom he now regards as friends, there could not have been one person in the room that evening who was not moved by how much (potentially unnecessary) pain he endured as a result of poor communication between medical departments and certain other factors. The point here is, no one likes to suffer, and more than that, no enjoys watching other people suffering, (unless of course you are a masochist, which fortunately most people in the health industry are not), and when we do hear such stories (as we did that night) our heart opens up and we just want to do whatever it takes to make things better. In his case this means improving treatment protocol and guidelines (and likely more than this), and his story which is now being spread around the world will hopefully go a long way to improving standards of healthcare.

As we were being briefed for our exercise, the convener reminded us how the human brain is not wired for change and humans resist new things. (Actually the brain IS wired for change is as has been proven by recent research in neuro-plasticity, but that is another blog!) It is a fact that in certain ways our brain (specifically the brain stem, amygdalla etc) does not like change because it sees it as a threat to physical survival, but we must learn to go beyond this fear if we are to progress our understanding of and results in health. We must learn to use our neo-cortex! We must be willing to embrace new paradigms and understandings of healthcare if we want the quality of life of patients to look positively different in 10 years time. As the saying goes “insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result”. 

Another way of putting it is ‘we don’t know what we don’t know, we are unaware of what it is we are unaware of’. Unfortunately the lady who told me she doesn’t want to take responsibility for her health does not yet know that she can, and that actually it is significantly more empowering, and potentially for her more satisfying to do so. And unfortunately, with all due respect, much of the medical training in our society is still based on models which are already or quickly becoming obsolete, and yet the system is being run to a large extent by these models.

Evolution is a Fact

It is a fact that everything evolves and changes. This is quite clearly seen in the technology of today. If you look at how a television or aeroplane has advanced since the 1950’s, it is staggering! Most people simply cannot imagine what their digital devices will look like in 20 years from now (although there are scientists at work on this right now!)

It seems to me that advances in human consciousness, and specifically in relation to advances in understandings in health, are lagging behind for the majority of the population, and even for many healthcare providers.

New theories and solutions are already here, as demonstrated in newly emerging healthcare modalities such as Mickel Therapy, Moativational Medicine™, The Emotion Code, Advanced Clearing Energetics, EFT, NES Health, Meta Health and more. But even though more and more people are turning outside the traditional medical system for answers, simply because that system is not able to meet their needs, change is slow. As MP Simon O’Connor said during his congress speech, “The Ministry of Health is like a supertanker: it takes a long time to turn around, but it will eventually turn”.

I was given some hope as I listened to Simon O’Connor’s address, when he said how the New Zealand Health Select Committee really DO want to hear the public and the health industry’s ideas for change for healthcare, and DO want us to approach them with our ideas. In his words “Skype with us, make an appointment, take the opportunity to get in front of us, send a submission. Find a local MP, tell them what you are doing, and make sure you personalise your communication!”. I for one will certainly be doing so, look out minister!

Service above Self

I was also inspired by Director General Chai Chuah’s speech, for several reasons. Not only did he share his personal health challenges and let us in on his ideal 2021 day, he also said three words which caught my attention: SERVICE ABOVE SELF.

Yes indeed! This is what is needed if we are to truly revolutionise the healthcare system. We must go beyond our individual likes and dislikes, beyond our personal preferences and beliefs, beyond our current limitations, to hear and understand the truth.

As I sat there at the end of the conference one thing became quite clear to me: the current prevailing medical system has some of the answers, and new healthcare practitioners such as myself, despite not having the words ‘dr’ in front of our names, have answers too. We need to pool our resources, knowledge and wisdom if we wish to successfully move forward for the benefit of patients, society – and the gross national debt!

My challenge right now is in learning how to communicate my understanding of health to those who have not yet come across the information and strategies I am privileged (through a dam lot of hard work might I say) to now know.

Whilst I am often told by my clients that I explain things very clearly and succinctly so that things ‘just make sense‘ and in fact are ‘just common sense‘ (although unfortunately not yet so common), it’s hard (even impossible) to do this for people until they are ready to hear the information. In other words, for most people, they had to get to that place of breakdown and be desperate enough to be willing enough to hear and do something new, because the old clearly was not working for them and their quality of life had become intolerable. They are ready for change, and specifically their consciousness is ready for something new.

Unfortunately it seems our current prevailing healthcare system has not yet reached that tipping or turning point. During his presentation on ‘Private Funding in MoH (Ministry of Health) Strategy, Roger Styles, CEO Health Funds Association NZ, clearly stated that the public system / government cannot sustain the current and projected increase in healthcare funding, which is why the MoH is now considering private funding.

My question is, what will it take for the system to recognise there are already, right now, answers which could significantly reduce the costs of healthcare AND bring greater quality of life to our population?  I hope for one it is not a total crisis!

So I will leave you with a quote by a brilliant and forward-thinking scientist and philosopher of our age, Buckminster Fuller, whose granddaughter I was privileged to have met some years ago:

“You never change things by fighting the existing reality. To change something, build a new model that makes the existing model obsolete.”

R Buckminster Fuller

 

For more information about Kim’s healthcare services see KimKnightHealth.com

 

Footnotes:

*1 A startling fact I was reminded of at the conference is that New Zealands’ healthcare bill is the highest single item of government spending, and our country has the highest healthcare spend of all OECD countries: and that 22% of tax revenue is used on the public healthcare system, and this amount is projected to increase to 31% by 2060, which from the government’s standpoint is quite literally an unsustainable increase. 

*2 Excerpt from my blog ‘Perceptual Blindness – a barrier to healing’?  written in 2011.

** ‘Precision Healthcare’ presentation by Ian McCrae, CEO, Orion Health

*3 Primarily I help people with chronic fatigue, ME, post viral fatigue, fibromyalgia, irritable bowel, insomnia, stress, depression, anxiety, and any obscure pain or symptoms which seem to have no cause

The True Cost of Staying Unhappy or Unwell

Depressed woman with head in hands

When I was ill with chronic fatigue, and unable to work for over 10 years, before I discovered what was actually causing the problem (which took me 5 of those 10 years), I would have given anything to find out (a) what was causing symptoms and (b) what I needed to do to get well.

Funnily enough, years later after I was well again, a very astute business woman asked me a question which really quite shocked me:

Her question was “When you were ill, and searching for answers, what would you have given, or paid, someone like you, (ie me the now well-informed health coach), if they had turned up on your doorstep one day and said ‘I have the answers, I can help you’?”

I pondered for a moment, reflecting back on the many months and years I had spent hardly able to walk, do the shopping or function as a human being at all … I mentally added up the number of therapies (140+) I had tried in those first 5 years and the thousands of dollars that had cost me. I remembered the loneliness and frustration as I searched for answers which no-one seemed to have, including doctors and therapists, and the friends or family who could not understand what was going on inside of me when I looked so ‘normal‘ on the outside.

Wow, I thought. I would have given anything. Everything!

Whilst I might not have given ‘an arm or a leg’ (I was still just able to walk after all, and I did need to cook my meals), I would have paid anything for someone to tell me what on earth was going on and how to get well. If I hadn’t had the money in the bank at the time, I would have taken a loan to get it!

That was not my journey however.

I know now, that in a strange way, I was destined to go through a long, protracted journey just so that I could (a) understand in depth the necessary steps for getting well and (b) help others to do so too and (c) be able to help others avoid having to go through such a long process.

I know that I was meant to try (to this day now) nearly 200 therapies so that I could learn what works and what doesn’t in particular for chronic fatigue and pain conditions, and be able to recommend the best options to others so that they wouldn’t have to try hundreds of therapies and spend thousands of dollars.

I know now that this journey provided me with exactly what I would need to help others recover in the shortest possible time with the least amount of angst. I know this now, and am very grateful for my personal journey, even though at the time it was unbelievably difficult.

What is it costing you to stay unwell or unhappy?

This then made me think.

What is the cost of staying ill or unwell, staying where we are, not taking the steps to get better, even when we know we want to?

Yes, this is a very common phenomenon, the reason for which I will come to shortly. But first of all let’s look at the real costs, both monetary and otherwise.

For many people with chronic pain and fatigue conditions, (CFS, ME, adrenal fatigue, burnout, chronic stress, anxiety, depression, fibromyalgia, glandular fever, PVFS etc) their lives are severely disrupted, many to the point of either not being able to work at all, or to the point that they still are working when they really shouldn’t be.

Let’s take an example of someone who is not working at all: let’s say their salary is $50,000 a year. If they don’t work for a year, that’s $50,000 that is not going into their bank account, plus the additional money that needs to be found to live. 5 years and it’s up to $250,000. 20 years and it’s a cool million dollars!

And yet, over the past 11 years since I have been helping people through these health conditions, I have found that on average the recovery time is 3-6 months, with some people taking only a few weeks, and others up to a year.

Personally I lost out big time financially. I sold my then mortgage-free house and car to pay my living expenses and therapy fees. I was unable to work for 10 years. At the time I sold my house it was valued at $300,000. The value now would be close to $800,000! Since then I have been paying weekly rent, another $350,000! So that’s another cool million or more down the drain. It’s crushing to think about, so I do my best not to, and keep looking forward…

But do the maths (or as they say in the good ‘ol USA ‘the math’). Which option do you think is better financially? To spend a small amount of money now to get your life back on track, or to stay unwell for years and lose a lot more. It’s a no-brainer really.

Which leads me on to the next topic: how long do we wait before taking action to restore our health and wellbeing?

The quicker you make a start at getting better, the quicker you get better

Years ago in London, I ‘put my back out’ while cleaning the windows in my 3rd floor flat. I was leaning out the window trying to clean the outside of the window when ‘ping’ something ‘went’ in my back. I had never hurt my back before and I really had no idea what I had done. As a consequence of my ignorance around back issues, I continued on as before, and did not seek help. 3 months went by, and even though I wasn’t in any real pain, I found that my range of motion was getting more limited.

Then one day I was sitting on the edge of my bed putting a sock on, and I realized that I couldn’t reach my foot. I was 26 years old and I could not bend over to put a sock on! Something was surely not right about this! ‘Surely I should be able to put my socks on‘ I thought to myself, and then remembered back to the day 3 months earlier when I had tweaked my back. Putting two and two together (finally) I realized I needed to seek help.

At that time, the only medical practitioners I had ever seen in my life were a dentist, surgeon and doctor. I had no idea who to see for my back situation, but I knew none of these three were the answer. Somehow, after asking around, I heard of a therapist called an ‘osteopath’. Gosh, that was a revelation, there were other medical practitioners than doctors and dentists!

I made an appointment with this man, and the first thing he said to me after hearing my window-cleaning story was this:

‘You should have come to see me as soon as you had the injury because now the body has compensated for the injury and it has set in, which means it will take longer to get better’.

This one decision to not seek help as soon as I could have after the original injury would, unbeknowns to me at the time, haunt me for another 20 years, including countless appointments with many osteopaths, and even visits by ambulance to hospital for morphine to deal with the pain. But that’s another story…

If I had known better and been more in touch with what was going on inside my body I would have saught help straight away, and if I ever tweak my back now, I know to seek help immediately, ideally the same day.

However, back then, I was completely out of touch with my body, and had no idea about alternative practitioners, so I did what a lot of people do, and ‘just put up with it‘ until I could no longer tolerate the pain and inconvenience.

The point here is, whilst conditions such as CFS, adrenal fatigue, ME, fibromyalgia etc are indicative themselves of not having gotten help immediately (because one simply cannot be experiencing these conditions without there being a multitude of long-standing stress and emotional issues that have been going on for months, and often years), at least once we know we have a condition it is wise to do something about it and get help as soon as possible from someone who truly knows what to do about it. Because the longer we leave it, the worse it gets. And the quicker we start identifying and rectifying the root causes, the quicker we can get well. It’s just common sense.

Whilst on the whole I have found the quicker we get onto it, the quicker the recovery, and the younger the person, the quicker the recovery, I have also worked with people who have had serious symptoms for 20 years and recovered in 2 weeks.It does happen, but I highly recommend not expecting it. It takes months and years to build up symptoms of chronic debilitating pain and fatigue, and we need to be prepared to take the time to make the necessary changes to reverse the situation.

What is the true cost of not being happy or healthy?

So what is the cost of staying unwell? There is only one answer to this:

EVERYTHING! YOUR LIFE!

Every day, month or year that goes by and you cannot function well physically, mentally or emotionally is time you will never recoup.

Conversely, every day, month or year you are happy and healthy is time you can spend doing what you want with your life.

What is it you want to do with your life? A fulfilling relationship? Enjoy quality time with your family, children, parents, friends? Share your gifts with the world? What does your life mean to you? Do you want to be lying on your deathbed and be grateful and proud of what you have done in your life, or do you want to waste away year after year wishing things could be different?

Not only do we lose out financially if we cannot work, we lose every aspect of our life: work, family, friends, hobbies, fun…

But here’s the good news!

We can get better if we know how. We have a choice and the power of free will. We can change our circumstances, as long as we understand that this change ALWAYS starts with us and from within. And it starts with the decisions we take over if we are going to do something about our situation, or if we are going to keep coming up with excuses as to why we should not take action.

Which brings me to the final point of this topic:

What is it that is really stopping you from getting well?

Why is it, when we know we want to be well, that we can find every excuse in the book not to?

Usually the reasons we give ourselves are something along the lines of “I can’t afford it or “I don’t have the time“. Yes I have heard both these reasons as a therapist a lot!

My response to that, given the statistics above, is ‘can you afford not to’?

Over the past few years I have discovered why most people think they cannot afford to do what it takes to get well. This has been the result of many years of personal discovery plus seeing the same pattern turning up in clients:

Deep, deep down, unconsciously, we do not feel deserving of feeling happy or getting better.

Please note the word UNCONSCIOUS here. We are not doing this consciously! It is something that is usually happening well beyond our conscious awareness.

Deep within we can have beliefs running our psyche  called ‘transparent’ beliefs because we don’t see them. They are also referred to as ‘false’ beliefs because once they become conscious, even though they tend to feel real, they are not the truth. But we believe them because we don’t feel deserving of good things in life, such as happiness, success, abundance, recognition and more.

These beliefs are formed early on in childhood, usually by the age of 7 years, and run our every waking (and sleeping) thought and action, without us even knowing it. They are, in truth, what have led us to become ill or unhappy in the first place. 

It goes without saying that we must discover and clear these beliefs, and the original events which set them up, in order to transform our current situation. And this we can do, if we know how. And it can take much less time and be easier than we might think. But unless we decide to seek the help to do so, nothing will change, and we will stay exactly where we are, for another month or year…

I have dedicated the past 25 years to learning this ‘stuff’, and I know for sure that we can change our circumstances as long as we make the decision to do so, and then follow up with appropriate, consistent action.

As the famous quote by Goethe goes:

“Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back. Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth that ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favour all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamed would have come his way. Whatever you can do, or dream you can do, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it. Begin it now.”

Don’t waste another day, month or year losing out on your precious life. Get the help you need right now so that you can get on and live the live you were born to live.

If you want to know the power of having a personal health coach, read my article here.

And if you want to check out my online self help Mickel Therapy programs, you can do so here. Even the most expensive program works out to be under $20 a week over the period of a year. How much could that save you in the long-run? Maybe your life…

In health,

Kim

www.kimknighthealth.com 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The power of a personal coach

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Imagine this scenario:

You have decided to climb Mt Everest, which you have never done before. You know you really want to get to the top.

You gather together what equipment you think you will need and set off. Imagine however that you have no map or compass, or personal guide to tell you which direction to go. You see the top of the mountain, it seems a long way off, and you set off in the direction you think is correct.

As you travel, sometimes you find yourself moving towards the mountain, but then the path seems to take a different turn, and you end up moving away from it. It gets frustrating. You wish you had someone to ask for help. To turn to for support. You wish you could ask someone for exact directions, a helping hand, a known, tried and tested route up the mountain.

You keep going, but after a few weeks, or months, or maybe even years, you start to get more and exhausted and despondent. Are you ever going to get there? The final destination never seems to get nearer. You just wish you had someone to talk to who could encourage you, support you, show you the way, tell you what to do, help you reach the summit. You start to wonder if you will ever get there…

SOUND FAMILIAR?

Now imagine this instead:

You have decided to climb Mt Everest. You have engaged an expert guide from the start, someone who has climbed this mountain many times. They know the exact route to take, they know what equipment to take, they know how long it is likely to take to get there.

They tell you exactly what to pack, what clothes and equipment to bring, what NOT to bring, and show you they have a top quality tried and tested compass and a detailed map.

They show you the route on the map of how you will reach the summit together, and give you an idea of how long it will most likely take to get there. They sit you down and brief you on the pitfalls along the way, the likely hurdles of crevasses and rockfalls you will meet which if you were alone might scare you or make you want to give up.

Then you set off together. They carry your big pack for you so that you only have to carry your small backpack.

You don’t have to do any thinking or planning – they tell you exactly what you will do each day, you just have to follow them up the mountain path.They make you meals each day, put up your tent each night, and know exactly how far to walk each day to match your perfect pace and current abilities. They never go too fast or too slow because they know the perfect speed for you. But you must do the walking and follow their guidance.

One day at a time, you walk together up the mountain, the guide showing you how to navigate any landslides and laying down a ladder for you to cross dangerous crevasses.

Even though at times it seems to you like you are going in the wrong direction and moving away from the end goal, they assure you that you are going the right way and that you need to trust in their guidance because they have been there before, many times.

One day at a time you walk up the mountain, in exactly the right direction, gradually making your way up that huge ascent. And bit by bit you see that you are making headway, you are going in the right direction, you are on track, and you are getting close to summit.

Until one day you reach the top. You did it, you got to the top, with help, but YOU did it!

And now that you have done it once, you know the path, you know the equipment that is needed to get to the top, and you have this knowledge and equipment to use for the rest of your life.

Such is the power of a personal coach.

As Einstein once said: “No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it” 

A personal guide knows the route, they know the pitfalls, they know the unseen hills and valleys you will have to cross on your journey.

They can also see the blind spots in your psyche which you cannot, which will often keep you stuck until they are noticed by someone ‘on the outside’ of your consciousness. They know how to jump across crevasses and dodge landslides. They know how to take care of you when you just feel like giving up and turning back.

We must have new tools and fresh perspectives to solve our problems, and this is exaclty what I do as a coach for you.

Fed up of not knowing why you are unwell or unhappy?

Wanting to find a way out so you can get on with living your life?

You’re not alone.

Nothing is worse than having pain, exhaustion or ongoing unhappiness and not finding a cause or solution, or knowing what to do about it.

Perhaps these life challenges are turning up in the home environment, in relationships, with finances, at work, with colleagues, partners, family, friends…

No matter what is showing up in your life as an unwanted circumstance, a first ‘breakthrough’ session with Kim will get to the bottom of it, and then reveal the steps for transforming it… for good. 

By the end of a first breakthrough session with Kim you will:

  • understand how everything that has happened to you in your life has led you, whether you have realized it or not, to end up where you are right now. We call this the ‘law of cause and effect’.
  • understand the key events in your life which have contributed to issues of unhappiness and / or symptoms of illness
  • most probably have ‘lightbulb’ moments in piecing together the pieces of the jigsaw puzzle of your whole life and the current situation you find yourself in, so that you can clearly see what needs to be done to ‘undo’ or resolve the issues at hand
  • know that there ARE solutions at hand which up until now you have not yet known or seen, so that you have HOPE that you WILL and CAN come through this. You do not have to spend the rest of your life in mental, emotional or physical pain.

By the end of this session you will have become crystal clear on why you are experiencing your current (and maybe long-standing) health or (un)happiness issues. We will also map out the road to recovery via the options available.

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5 Reasons why therapists need to charge and are worth their weight in gold

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Often as a health coach I get asked the question ‘why can’t you offer your services for free?’

As a single woman entrepreneur living in an increasingly expensive world, it’s a question which really frustrates me, because believe me, if I could offer my coaching services for free, I would!

Despite the fact that I do offer many free webinars, free introductory online programs and free podcasts, which take many hours and sometimes days to prepare and create, I do need to charge for my services.

So for all those people out there who wonder why I, or other coaches, cannot offer our services for free, here are 5 reasons why our services need to paid for and essentially are worth their weight in gold:

1. We need money to survive!

Yes, I know this may sound crazy, but we actually live in a world where money is the form of exchange for a number of basic needs and services such as rent, bills, food, petrol, clothes, toiletries, taxes, holidays (yes, we deserve and need holidays!)…

I’m sure you already know that money is the main form of payment these days, but it seems to me that the people who ask if my services can be free don’t seem to realize this! “Do these people not need money themselves to live?” I often ask myself!

Over and above everyday living expenses, I think another fact which most would-be-potential clients are unaware of, (and I certainly was before I started a business) is the enormous costs involved in running a business…

2. Yes, it takes money to run a business!

The definition of a business is an entity which offers a product or service in exchange for money which makes a profit. Whilst many (most) coaches start their practice out of pure love for the work they do, and many start it on the side as a hobby, the reality is running a business costs money.

Every week there are massive business overheads which anyone who has never run their own business may be unaware of…

…clinic rent, phone lines, internet fees, digital software fees for running webinars, membership site fees, email newsletters marketing fees, online booking system fees, virtual assistants wages, advertising fees, marketing budgets, website fees, domain name fees, business advisor fees, accountant fees, accounting software fees, taxes, GST (VAT), professional development training fees, marketing training fees, association membership fees, insurance fees, CPD training fees, the list goes on…

Seriously! It’s a long list, costing hundreds and more usually thousands of dollars a month. There is no getting away from these expenses if one wants to run a business and offer services to people.

In addition, the more ‘service’ based (as opposed to ‘product’ based) a business is, the more one has to charge, because a service-based business does not have the luxury or leeway of the product ‘mark up’ (wholesale to retail) advantage. For example, whilst a naturopath will sell supplements at retail price, and often make their main profit from products rather than consultation fees, a service-based coach can only charge for their time.

It wasn’t until I did a business course years ago that I realized two other interesting facts about running a business:

  1. When you calculate your hourly client rate, you have to take into consideration that this hourly rate must include all the business expenses (mentioned above) that go into running the business as a whole, plus making a living and hopefully (see below) a profit. That means everything!
  2.  As a health coach it is not possible to spend 40 hours a week seeing clients: time has to be allocated for administration, sales, marketing, graphic design, website updates, accounting, meetings, professional development and more, plus one has to allocate time in between client sessions to rest and prepare. This radically reduces the amount of real available time for appointments, something which most clients are unaware of!

So please, next time you ask yourself ‘why can’t this therapist offer their services for free?‘, please consider the enormous and very real costs and time involved in running a business.

3. We need and deserve to make a profit

Yes, a business, in order to survive, actually needs to make a profit. That means that more money comes in than goes out each month after business expenses and taxes.

I’ll be brutally honest here. Last year was the first year, since I started my practice in 2006, that I made a small profit!

Week after week I have often found myself wondering if I can pay my rent or bills. Often I have had to buy food and essential living items, or even had to pay bills, using my credit card. Often I have put myself into debt to keep running my business. Often I have asked myself “why on earth am I doing this, why do I keep going, when I would be far better off financially if I just had a desk job?”

The answer? Because I believe in the work I do, (as do most caring therapists who are in the world with a mission to help others), I believe in the value I am offering and that the world, and I know that people need and want the life-changing information I have to offer. 

This is what keeps me going, and believe me, sometimes I think I really must be quite mad! But something deep inside keeps me going in the hope that one day I will start making a decent profit, and more to the point, that I deserve to be doing so.

I cannot tell you the number of coaches I know who every week struggle to survive and keep their business going, but this is not a known fact to the general public when they are viewing their service prices.

And when I get feedback from clients, such as this just last week, I know that what I am doing is of priceless value:

“After just a few weeks of working with you, I now really believe I can get better. It’s so absolutely amazingly brilliant! I can’t begin to tell you how thrilled to bits I am. I can see the change in mindset as well as physically. Symptoms aren’t anything like what they were. It’s been a very humbling experience. Mind-blowing actually”.

Which brings me to the next point…

4. We are offering value which needs to be valued

One of the major lessons I have learnt over 25 years of studying and training in the field of personal development and health services is this:

In order to be able to offer the (quite literally) life-changing services which we offer, as therapists or coaches we have had to go through the learning and personal transformation first ourselves. And then we have to train professionally to offer professional services to others. 

This means firstly we have had to dig deep inside ourselves to find what needs to be healed and transformed, and then done what it takes to heal and transform it. This takes great courage, tenacity, perseverance, commitment and time.

Secondly, in order to become a health professional we are going to have to do a lot of professional training, which costs a lot of money!

Personally I have invested at least $250,000 (yes, you read that correctly) to pay for the healing and training I have gone through myself, including seeing therapists, travelling overseas, a huge number of professional trainings and more. And it is ongoing, it never stops.

This journey to understanding health and wellness has been a huge personal and professional journey, which has come at a cost, including even having to sell my house to live.

I have personally dedicated the last 25 years of my life to learning how to clear emotional trauma and physical illness without medication or supplements. This is valuable and cutting-edge information in a world which relies mostly on drugs or surgery to solve problems which can actually be solved without medication or surgery if you know how. And I know how!

So the bottom line is, these enormous and ongoing costs need to be recouped, and the value of the knowledge and wisdom gained through years of personal and professional development needs to be recognized by any client wanting the knowledge, wisdom or services offered by any well trained, skilled and experienced therapist.

5. There needs to be ‘skin in the game’

Another important fact I have observed over the years when it comes to a client-therapist relationship  is this:

There needs to be skin in the game!

What does this mean?

It means that if you really want something, you need to be willing to give something up to get it.

For example, if you see a nice handbag or pair of shoes, you are going to have to give up some of your hard-earned cash to buy it. Or if you want a holiday or car, you are going to have to pay for it. And usually, the higher the quality car, the more you are going to pay for it.

I have also found it interesting how people will pay thousands of dollars for other types of coaching, and yet when it comes to natural health, it is considered a ‘low value’ commodity:

Whilst people will often spend thousands of dollars on conventional medicine (surgery and specialist medication) somehow natural therapies are seen as inferior, despite the fact they can often help people recover without the need for medication or surgery.*

Also, it seems that somehow our health needs rate differently to other needs in our life:

People will often pay high amounts for other types of health services, such as fitness coaching. I know a coach who charges $40,000 for a 3 month fitness program!

Recently I approached two business coaches for business coaching, to discover their fees were around $25,000 for 3-12 months coaching, and it seems these fees are quite normal in the business world. And yet I would find it almost impossible to ask clients to pay such an amount for my services, and cannot myself pay for this level of coaching.

So why is it that people expect not to pay for extraordinary healthcare, when they will pay a high price for a new sofa, car, holiday or other coaching services?

Well I find there are two core reasons:

  1. A lot of it comes down to the fact that we have been conditioned in society to expect free healthcare, and to expect that good health will come without doing anything to maintain or achieve it ourselves.

We have not been taught that good health requires a preventative maintenance approach (in order to avoid illness) and that if we get ill, we have gone off track in our life, and there are changes to be made in order to reverse the end result of illness. We are simply unaware of the literal and metaphorical cost of illness or health, and what it takes to get it back.

I find it extraordinary, now that I understand in depth this topic of health, how people are prepared to pay for cigarettes, junk food, new sofas, new cars, lotto tickets and holidays, which means they value these commodities, but are not prepared to pay for good health, which means they do not value their health, or themselves, which means at a core level they do not regard themselves as the most important thing in their lives!

 

Which brings me to the second reason:

2. At a core level we don’t feel worthy of spending this money on ourselves, or we don’t want the change enough, which actually also means at a core unconscious level we don’t feel worthy of spending this money on ourselves!

So why is this?

Since working in clinical practice I have noticed several common themes in every client I have worked with who finds themself ill or unhappy in life:

  • At a deep core (unconscious) level they do not feel of value
  • At a deep core level they do not feel worthy… of love, happiness, success
  • At a deep core level they do not feel deserving… of love, happiness, success…
  • At a deep core level they do not feel good enough… to have love, happiness, success…
  • At a deep core level they do not feel enough.

This is in fact what unconsciously leads us to becoming ill and unhappy. And this is what needs to be addressed in order to become truly happy and well. This is what I offer people. This is the value I offer people: to develop true self esteem, self confidence, self belief, self worth. The absolute knowing that they ARE good enough, and that they deserve to have the help and guidance to achieve this. And when we value ourselves and know we are deserving of happiness and success, we will have our health, because the two go hand in hand.

Because, you see, the reality is, if we don’t have our health and happiness (and health is an offshoot of authentic happiness) we cannot live our life successfully, we cannot achieve our potential, we cannot have fun, we cannot achieve our dreams, and more importantly, we cannot serve the world. Without our health and happiness we are just surviving, and never thriving.

So the question is, do you value yourself enough to make yourself YOUR priority in life, to put yourself first, to see that the number one thing you need to invest in is YOU?

If so you will see the value in a therapist or health coach. You will see that by transforming (and I literally mean change that doesn’t reverse) yourself from the inside out, your life will transform on the outside too. When you know you are deserving of love, success and happiness, you will be able to achieve what you want in life in terms of work, career, relationships, abundance. But it all starts with inner transformation.

So the real question here is, do you feel you deserve to invest in you and your future? Is this transformation and end-result worth paying for? Are you worth it?

If the answer is no, then there is personal change work to be done at a core level. If the answer is yes, then you will know that you desire this change enough to be ready to pay for it.

And that my friend is why transformational personal development and health coaching services will be one of the most valuable services you will ever pay for in your life!

kimknighthealth.com

* please note I am not suggesting that sometimes surgery or medication is not necessary, or that sometimes surgery and medication may be the only answer or first option.

How precious is life really?


Have you ever stopped to wonder at how precious life is?

The older I get, and the more I clear out my past so I can make the most of the present and future, which means I can then live my purpose and follow my dreams, the more I realize the truth of this.

The funny thing is, when I was ill and unhappy, I never saw things this way at all.

In fact, I spent a lot of my time wishing I wasn’t here, wishing it was all over. It was just too hard, and all I experienced day after day was sadness, anger, depression, exhaustion…

Can you relate to this? Have you ever felt so bad that you have thought it would be easier for it to be over?

When we are happy and joyful, we want to live. And when we are unhappy or unwell, often we feel it’s just too hard to keep going. Or at least that was how it was for me.

This is pretty sad, but true for many people. And it has to do with what is known as the ‘scale of consciousness’.

Depending on where we sit on the scale of human consciousness, we will either experience life as enjoyable… or not.

So how you are living your life right now? Do you wake up every day feeling a sense of gratitude and awe for your life, glad to be alive? Or is every day a constant chore of a struggle?

If it’s the latter, would you like it to be different?

Because the truth is, our human life is very precious. And most of the time, and especially if we are unhappy or ill, we don’t realize the truth of this statement…

BUBBLE IN WATER

A few years ago I heard that the Tibetans have a saying: “Every human life is like a bubble in water”.

In other words, the bubble can burst at any moment.

Many of the people I know who are truly happy and successful say they had a ‘wake up call’ through an accident or illness, which made them understand the preciousness of life, and helped them realize that they wanted to make the most of every minute of the rest of their life.

For me it was not an overnight experience, but the hard work and perseverance is paying off, and I no longer ‘wish it was all over’.

It is said that we teach what we need to learn, and this has certainly been the case for me.

I spent most of my life being intensely unhappy and many years being ill. There were many times when I felt like it was just too hard to go on, too much of a struggle.

But something kept me going. And now I’m so glad it did, because finally I am starting to experience true happiness.

It’s been a lot of work, but the good news is that because I investigated this topic so deeply and for so long, I can now short-cut that journey for others.

Not that we don’t each need to do the work for ourselves, but when we have a guide who has travelled up the mountain before us, it makes it so much easier and quicker.

So this is exactly why I do the work I do.

I want to inspire people to know that they can be happy, they can be healthy, they can get to the top of that mountain.

And they don’t have to do it alone.

It EXCITES me to inspire others up that mountain!

And here’s the interesting thing:

There are just a few core reasons why we stay stuck at the bottom of the mountain, one of the biggest of which is this:

We don’t value ourselves enough. We don’t think we are good enough. We don’t feel we are ‘enough’.

Does this ring true for you? Do you feel good enough? Do you feel you are ‘enough’? Enough for your self… enough for others?

Without exception, including myself, with all the clients I have worked with over the past 11 years, this is the core, overriding issue at the bottom of unhappiness and illness. 

We simply do not feel good enough. We walk around with low self-esteem, low self-worth, low self-confidence, most of the time not even realizing we are doing so because we’ve been doing it for so long it has become our ‘normal’.

But here’s the problem:

If we do not value ourselves, we can never be truly happy or healthy or authentically successful. 

And low self-value leads to unhappiness and even eventually chronic illness.

Why?

Because when we do not value the truth of our wonderfulness, (yes, that phrase will feel uncomfortable if you cannot yet resonate with it as a truth), we will constantly do things to negate ourselves, put ourselves down, make ourselves feel bad, and allow others to treat us less than respectfully. We will abuse ourselves and allow others to do so too. We will constantly strive to be better, do better, feel better. We will push ourselves harder and harder, trying to be ‘ok’, but nothing is ever good enough! It’s exhausting. Right?  And so we unconsciously become the bringers of our own doom.

So what is the answer?

To learn to love ourselves, respect ourselves, VALUE OURSELVES. YOURself. That means you. Yes you.

So this is why I love one of the methods I use a lot to help people transform their life.

I love it because it teaches people how to value themselves, and when they start valuing themselves, their life transforms in front of their eyes for the better. In hours, days, weeks…

This method teaches people how to BE different in the world. How to behave true to themselves. It gives them the PERMISSION they never had as a child to be themselves, to be authentic. What a gift! To release one’s authenticity.

This method teaches YOU how to value yourself, put yourself first without feeling guilty, make yourself a priority in your life and feel good about it, how to say no rather than yes all the time, how to honour yourself, how to be assertive with ease, how to communicate your needs with others, and so much more.

And what is the result of this?
The result is we start to feel good about ourselves, maybe for the first time ever. We start to re-empower ourselves after years of giving our power away to others. We start to feel happy and healthy, maybe for the first time in years!

In fact the results of these simple techniques are extraordinary.

Depression lifts, anxiety transforms, and symptoms of illness disappear.

This is why I am such an advocate of this method.

Not only does it show people how to recover their health without any medication or supplements, but it does so by showing people how to take back control over their life. It shows them that it is their right to feel good about themselves, to put themselves first, to be happy, to do what is right for THEM.

So the wonderful thing about this method is that it serves a dual purpose:

1. It shows people how to value themselves, how to re-empower themselves, to look after themselves, and in doing so clears symptoms of anxiety, depression and unhappiness.

2. By doing all of the above it also helps people reduce and clear symptoms of chronic debilitating pain and fatigue, which were all brought on as a result of not being true to oneself.

How exciting and amazing is that? In a world which mostly tells us we have to take a pill to deal with chronic symptoms, this therapy shows people how their body and mind are the most magnificent self-healing machines, which , when given the right conditions, will bring themselves back to their natural state of health and harmony.

Which brings me to this…

The world’s FIRST EVER live group online Mickel Therapy coaching program will start in 3 weeks time…

All the details of my upcoming program are in this video and the info page which you can reach from the video page.

The most important things to know are this:

  • If you are looking for a step by step, pain by numbers technique for learning how to value yourself, say no without feeling guilty, put yourself first, create healthy work-life balance, be assertive, overcome the fear of speaking out, stop allowing others to take advantage of you, stop putting up with unfair treatment from others... then THIS is the program to do!
  • And if you want to know how to recover from a chronic illness, pain or fatigue condition, the tools in this program are a MUST. I have not yet met one client in 11 years who did not need to learn and apply these strategies! Not one!
  • I am offering a massive-value earlybird signup deal, including bonuses, which runs out in 24 hours… as you will see, the timer is literally ticking on the page… once the earlybird finishes the price goes up and this launch price will never be repeated.
  • If you want to pay by payment plan you can do so, but only if you sign up by the earlybird deadline – after that it is one pay option only. So if funds has held you back in the past, this option can help you make it super affordable.
  • Due to the enormous amount of time it takes to prepare and deliver a program of this calibre, this will probably be the only live Mickel Therapy group program I host this year.

I am so excited to welcome on board the people who have already registered for this course.

Will you join us if you haven’t already?

Go here to check out all the details

I really look forward to seeing you on the inside!

Cheers! Kim

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mickeltherapykim.mykajabi.com