The Price of Secondary Gain

Time to change concept

“When we’ve finally had enough, and we can no longer take the pain of our situation one moment longer, we make a decision that things are going to be different, even if we don’t yet know how, and from that one decision EVERYTHING changes. And I mean EVERYTHING”. Kim Knight

A life changing opportunity awaits if you are ready…

If you’re experiencing stuckness, overwhelm, life crisis or an ongoing health complaint, how would it be if within 3 to 6 months from now your life was radically different? How would that feel? What difference would that make? 

In order to help you make this decision, I invite you to stop for a moment and ask yourself the following:

  1. If you’re currently experiencing stuckness, stress, anxiety, overwhelm or a chronic health issue, how is this impacting your ability to lead a normal life?
  2. If you stay exactly where you are, what will your life look like 3, 6, 12 months from now?
  3. If you resolve or make significant progress with this issue in the next 3 to 6 months, what difference will this make in your life? And how will that feel? What will you be doing differently in your life?

One of the most frequent comments I hear from people who are wanting a change in their circumstances are phrases like ‘I don’t have the time, money, energy’ etc…

But here’s the problem: if we don’t do something different, nothing changes, and we stay exactly where we are.

Interestingly enough, in every case, when we dig deep beneath the ‘mind reasons’ which feel so real and true, we find there is something else lurking beneath the reason our mind is giving us, which surprisingly have very little to do with the reason our mind is giving us:

In almost every case we find there is a hidden fear around change and what it will mean if our life changes in the way we are saying we want it to. In psychology we call this a ‘secondary gain’.

For example, if we start acting differently and stand up to our partner / parents / in laws / work colleagues… we fear ‘they won’t like me any more’ , and instead we find ourselves keeping our feelings to ourselves to ‘keep the peace’ and avoid feeling rejected.

Or we may prevent ourselves from getting well or clearing depression because deep down we are afraid of being truly happy or successful, because ‘what will other people think of me if I get better and am abundant and successful?’.

There are 4 core fears which prevent humans from being their authentic self

This relates to the fact that deep down there are 4 core fears which prevent humans from being their authentic self: the fear of losing someone, the fear of rejection, the fear of feeling our feelings, and the fear of feeling vulnerable. And underneath all of that is the fear of not being loved and accepted unconditionally.

So we find what really is stopping us taking action on our situation has much less to do with lack of money or time, and more about much deeper insecurities relating to being truly happy and successful. Sounds crazy right? But it’s true. And I know this from personal experience.

The pain of change must become stronger than the pain of staying where we are

I have also observed that not taking action to get the help we really need is often because we have not yet reached the point where we have absolutely had enough of our current situation and will do whatever it takes to change. This point must be reached before we take action. In other words, the pain of change must become stronger than the pain of staying where we are!

As the saying goes ‘the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result’.

At some point, we have to risk doing something new and possibly unfamiliar; we have to make a decision to do something different.

This will require that we step out of our comfort zone and do what may feel uncomfortable. And it is likely to stretch us.

Recently I worked with a client who signed up for private coaching, and then 2 days later got ‘cold feet’. However, we started working together, and just 3 weeks later she wrote to tell me how the fear which had arisen in her was just the fear of change, and how happy she was that she had pushed through the fear, and today her life is already radically changed after just a few weeks.

Often the lack of money also seems like the reason for not taking action.

But think about this for a second: if a dear family member, partner or child suddenly needed life-threatening surgery within 7 days, and the only possibility of survival was to find $20,000, or even $100,000, for a life-saving operation within a week, would you find the money? Of course you would! You would create a miracle to make that happen! But do we do this for ourselves? Hardly ever!

But when we’ve finally had enough, and we can no longer take the pain of our situation one moment longer, we make a decision that things are going to be different, and from that one decision EVERYTHING changes. And I mean EVERYTHING.

Take Phyl for example, who is 88 years young. She decided after 55 years of chronic fatigue and depression that she was simply NOT going to spend the rest of her life in pain anymore. She made a resolute decision she WOULD find a way to change, and would 100% commit herself to that change. She phoned me, said she wanted to do my online program, and bamm, 6 months later she was 90% recovered!

So what was it that brought the results? Firstly her absolute determination that she was going to change things, and secondly her commitment to following through with the advice and guidance she was given.

This was exactly how it happened for me too.

After 3 months of sitting on my couch after being diagnosed with chronic fatigue, unable to do anything, I decided one day NO, I will not live my life like this anymore. I WILL find a way to get better and I WILL do whatever it takes. That decision changed my life.

Whilst it took me several more years to find the solutions, I now short-cut the same level of transformation for most clients into just a few short months. 

The point is, this commitment to change is absolutely key to success. I have written about this more than once in several blogs (see the links further down) and talked about it in many videos: the decision to change, and do whatever it takes to get a different result, is the absolute first step in change. Without it nothing happens.

So if you can answer the following question with a resounding YES, then you are ready for change:


Are you ready to take absolute committed action to change what is turning up in your life right now? Do you want your life to look very different (and by that I mean better and even radically better) in just a few months from now?

If the answer is yes, then I can tell you the change you are looking for is possible, and sooner and quicker than you may ever have imagined!


Here are a few past blogs I have written on this topic:

The price of progress

The preciousness of life

The true cost of staying unhappy or unwell

The 8 roadblocks to healing

Digital Healthcare is Coming. Are you Ready?


“Understanding what causes illness and knowing how to self-manage symptoms is one of the greatest gifts we can give ourselves”. Kim Knight

This week at the Cloud in Health Symposium in Auckland, we were given a glimpse of the future of IT-driven healthcare for New Zealand.

Three themes stood out:

  1. New Zealand is moving to a VIRTUAL HEALTHCARE SYSTEM where more and more patient visits are conducted remotely via remote devices or distance consultations, with a goal, according to Dr Damian Tomic, of “40% of all contact with patients being virtual by Dec 2017”.
  2. We are moving to PEOPLE POWERED HEALTHCARE where the healthcare system will encourage and teach patients to take greater responsibility for their health.
  3. FUTURISTIC TECHNOLOGIES will allow for revolutionary inside-the-body monitoring of vital body signs, for example, by injecting micro cameras inside the body to remotely monitor symptoms


For years my clinical practice has been about advocating ‘people-powered healthcare’, where clients learns self-mastery over their well being through private coaching or online self-help health programs. Understanding what causes illness and knowing how to self-manage symptoms is one of the greatest gifts we can give ourselves. So I was glad to hear that this is the vision for the future of healthcare from some of our top medical minds.

Dr Damian Tomic, Clinical Director of Primary and Integrated Care Waikato DHB, is looking forward to a revolutionized healthcare system where “patients are kept healthy before they become patients, and are put at the centre of their healthcare, empowering them to manage their own health”.

Why the need for such radical change?

While in the USA one fifth of the GDP is spent on healthcare, in New Zealand the healthcare bill is equally the highest single item of government spending: 22% of tax revenue is used on the public healthcare system with a projected increase of 31% by 2060. Healthcare spending has now reached such an unsustainable level, the government is currently seeking private funding for healthcare. (New Zealand Healthcare Congress 2016) 

Darrin Hackett, Executive Director of Virtual Care and Innovation, Waikato DHB, clearly stated “we cannot survive if we deliver healthcare as we do today in 15… or 10… or even 5 years. With an ageing population which will hit 25% of the total population by 2030, we need alternative resources to humans”.

According to Hackett “consumer technology will drive the change”: the use of our personal mobile phones and mobile devices will be where and how we interact with our health professionals and monitor our health. Already in the USA, patients are sent health reminders and updates via wristbands which also ongoingly monitor vital signs.

Gabe Rijpma, Senior Director of Health and Social Services, Microsoft Asia, was straight to the point as he stated we have been operating a “sick care system” and it’s finally time to move to a ‘healthcare system’. With the volume of healthcare data doubling every 24 months, he stressed it’s critical we make greater use of technology to monitor and store information, in particular to manage the 3 core technological health industry disruptors of precision medicine, remote monitoring and auto managing of provisions.


“Ultimately we will learn that the greatest piece of technology we could ever wish for sits between our own ears”. 

People are about to discover that virtual and augmented reality are not just for teenage gamies or pokemon addicts! This is the stuff of Sci-fi films coming to life where micro-chipping is not just limited to your dog or cat.

Micro-cameras, the size of a grain of salt, can now be injected via syringe into tissues to monitor symptoms and vital signs, whilst ‘neural dust transceiver’ implants injected into the brain can send data to machines outside the body.

MS Hololens ‘mixed reality’ blends 3D holographic content into the physical world, allowing for interaction between digital content and the ‘real’ environment. Learning comes alive as flat illustrations turn into 3D images which medical students explore, alter, and examine from every angle.

The IBM ‘Watson’ technology uses natural language processing and machine learning to reveal insights from large amounts of unstructured data, allowing a super computer to assess and diagnose in seconds what might take a doctor days, months or even years.


“The key to the success of these new technologies does not just lie in the technology itself. It lies in our understanding of what really causes dis-ease, and how to solve it, even without technology”. 

I was excited to see how the therapies I and many of my colleagues offer, as well as their mode of delivery, are well up with the play. Whilst for the past 10 years many have scoffed or not even understood this level of healthcare, I sense things are about to change…

  1. VIRTUAL HEALTHCARE – yes! Since 2009 I have been ‘seeing’ clients remotely worldwide  and since 2015 100% of client consultations are carried out via the internet. I have even given up my clinic space as a result of the demand for remote sessions, including for clients located in my home town.
  2. PEOPLE POWERED HEALTHCARE – yes! Clients are taught exactly how to identify the meaning behind their symptoms, how symptoms are never random, and can be interpreted and cleared by understanding what causes ‘dis-ease’ and knowing how to restore inner peace of mind.
  3. NEW TECHNOLOGIES – yes and no! Whilst I will never be putting micro chips into people, I am using new technology to deliver online programs to people worldwide. The scope of these online self-help education programs is doing one of the most important things needed right now for a real revolution in healthcare: teaching people what causes illness and showing them how to both prevent and recover from it just by taking care of their total well being. It’s exciting!

The key to the success of these new technologies does not just lie in the technology itself. It lies in our understanding of what really causes dis-ease, and how to solve it, even without technology.

As long as our self-awareness, expansion of consciousness and willingness to take greater responsibility for our own health keeps pace with the evolution of technology, we will make good progress. And ultimately we will learn that the greatest piece of technology we could ever wish for sits between our own ears.

About the Art of Health

Kim Knight is the Director of the Art of Health / Kim Knight Health. She specializes in showing people how to recover from chronic illness without medication or supplements, specializing in chronic fatigue and pain conditions. She will be sharing some of her client success stories using Telehealth at the HINZ Health Informatics conference in Auckland this year.

8 roadblocks to healing


From my own very long journey back to health from chronic fatigue, depression and many other ailments, plus working with hundreds of women, I have noticed there are certain habits, traits, beliefs or patterns which will halt progress in its tracks. Here they are…


This is one of the biggest misnomers that people looking for a solution will have: expecting healing to happen overnight, or even in a few weeks.

Why is it unrealistic to think this?

Because in 99% of cases, illness takes years to build up in the body, even before symptoms are noticed, and expecting an overnight change, without making the necessary changes within ourselves we need to make, is the biggest mind trick ever. In every client I have yet worked with, the actual ‘set up’ happens within the first 10 years of life, but it is not apparent at this time.

Partly this expectation is fueled by our healthcare system which does offer ‘quick fixes’ in the form of medication or surgery. For example, anti-depressants can take effect in a few days or weeks, allowing us to continue on with our daily life as before, without ever asking the question ‘why am I ill in the first place?’ Blood pressure pills can balance our blood pressure in days, but if we don’t explore why the pressure is out of balance in the first place, we are just placing the proverbial plaster on the wound.

The problem with this is, unless we discover and address what created the symptoms, the real problem is not being addressed, and symptoms are merely being masked, and will usually re-occur in some other form sooner or later.

Advertising also fuels this misnomer. How many ads have you watched telling you that if you have the flu or a strained back ‘just take xyz medication’ and you can get on with your day as if nothing has happened? No! If your body is sending you symptoms, it is asking you to take stock of what is going on in your life to understand what has brought it into this state of ‘dis-ease’. If you have the flu, the natural intelligence of your body is telling you it needs to rest and repair. Your body is not a machine and it deserves your care and respect! If you have chronic fatigue syndrome, your body is telling you to stop and re-assess your whole life, and how you are ‘doing’ life. Every symptom has a message which is waiting to be interpreted, and this must be done.

So expecting your body to self-repair overnight or in one session is simply unrealistic, and this must be understood and accepted. Then the real work of healing (which means ‘to become whole’) can begin.


Often we can think that one therapy will be the one-stop-shop solution.

In my experience as a practitioner working with many clients, this is less likely to be the case. For my personal experience, I had to test and implement a number of methods to get results.

Whilst some people can hit on one therapy which will be the one ‘miracle cure’, the percentage of people this happens to is much less, and in my personal experience I would say about 5% of people are this fortunate. For the other 95%, we are going to have to use more than one approach.

Why is this?

Because finding and addressing the real root cause of illness, and all the many potential contributing factors, is not that simple. There may be physical factors, emotional reasons, belief and thinking factors, dietary issues, geopathic stress, environmental issues,  toxic issues, people issues, genetic or epigenetic issues, lifestyle and habit factors which need to be addressed. The list is long.

Many therapies are developed to focus on one particular issue, and may be perfect for that, and brilliant at addressing that one particular issue, but just like expecting ‘one religion to fit all’, it is unrealistic to expect that a therapy will address all causes.

So for example supplements can help with nutritional deficiencies, but they will not address the trauma and stress of dealing with an abusive partner which is creating the ‘dis-ease’ in the digestive system in the first place.

Plus what works for one person will not necessarily work for another! Which is why it is so important to follow our ‘gut’ feeling to find what ‘feels‘ right for us, and why healing is a journey of self-discovery. We must be prepared that we may need to use multiple approaches and that this will not happen overnight.

In my experience, getting well from a chronic illness is a cumulative process, where finding and implementing different strategies will eventually, sooner or later, help us to reach our goal of wellness.


This is a very common expectation, especially if we have been ill for a long time. Of course we want to be well again, but putting time deadlines on the body does not work at all. In fact, it slows down progress because it puts our body under pressure to achieve a result it cannot achieve without right understanding of what has caused the problem, and right rectification of that problem.

A much better question to ask is ‘what is it I need to learn or change in my life in order to bring my body back into balance? What is it I need to do to stop damaging my body‘. Once we discover this, and implement it, and once our super intelligent body sees that we mean for real to live our life in a healthier way, and we have proven that we are no longer going to ‘damage’ it with negative beliefs, behaviours and actions, it will bring itself back into health. It doesn’t want to be unwell any more than you do, but it will keep you unwell if there are still lessons to be learned.


While it is true, useful and sometimes very necessary that we receive emergency treatment, medication or surgery, we must look at the bigger picture. We must understand that our body is a self-healing mechanism that can and will self-heal given the right circumstances.

The more we understand this, the more self-responsibility we can start to take for our health. We become more aware of what it is that WE are doing to create or perpetuate illness. Then we can start to make necessary changes and get a different result. As the saying goes ‘the definition of insanity is doing the same thing again and again and expecting a different result‘.

Initially it may feel scary to feel that we play such a huge role in our health, but ultimately when we take back our power and become self-masterful, it is a highly satisfying and empowering experience.


When a client comes to me and says ‘I’ve tried everything’ my first question will be to get a specific list of what ‘everything’ means. Usually I find although it may seem like a long list to the person, it is not nearly ‘everything’. Usually the number will be somewhere between 5 and 20 therapies.

Having tried and tested nearly 200 therapies myself, and trained professionally in 20, I know that I am also nowhere near to ‘trying everything’! There are an abundance of health modalities in the world today, and the more countries and cultures you experience, the more health approaches you will discover. On my journey to discover solutions to my illness, I travelled to Egypt, Mexico, USA, Canada, Costa Rica, Guatamala, UK, Fiji, Australia, New Zealand and more and discovered some truly unique therapies!

So whether you have tried 5 or 50 therapies, why is it that thinking we have ‘tried everything’ will prevent our progress? Well, for 3 core reasons:

  1. When we think we have ‘done it all’, we close our mind to new possibilities, and when our mind is closed, it cannot learn something new. In order for the change and transformation we are seeking to occur, we MUST be open to new information and possibilities, otherwise we are doing the ‘same old same old’ again and again, even if it is with a different method.
  2. We may often have tried many therapies, but have you yet tried the right approach for what you need? If we are not using an approach that addresses the real root cause of the symptom, then it is unlikely we will find the answer. Most people are unaware that many health approaches never get near the root cause.
  3. If we really have tried multiple therapies and nothing is working, then we need to ask ourselves one question: ‘what is the common denominator here?’ – and of course it’s us! Which means there must be something in us which is not yet changing or open to change, and this holds the key to the breakthrough we are looking for. It also means there is some vital piece of the puzzle which is still missing. We must find this piece, and this is precisely what I offer in my foundation ‘Kiwi Health Detective Session‘. In one 90 minute session we discover those missing pieces.


Similar to ‘I’ve tried everything’, the thought that we already know the answer will block our ability to see and hear new possibilities. We must keep our mind open to new information.

We must also let go of what we think we know and develop ‘beginners’ mind’.

As ancient Masters say “You cannot fill a cup that is already full. Empty the cup first”.

Even if you think you already know it, let go of the urge to think or say this when receiving advice from an expert, because they may just say something which could change your life. Which brings me to the last point…


Now this piece of information is probably one the BIGGEST mindset changes that blows people’s minds if this is the first time they have heard it!

Physical symptoms are less likely, than more likely, to be caused by something that has nothing to do with any physical! Of course this goes against the grain of much of our ‘education’.

For me it was the missing piece of the puzzle: for years I tried physical therapies, never realizing that what was going on my mind and emotions was affecting my body. But as you will discover, everything we feel and think changes our chemistry, and chemistry is what makes our cells; when we feel and experience good-feeling thoughts and emotions, this will have a beneficial impact on our cells. When we feel and experience negativity and negative emotions, this will lead our cells to experience something completely different. This is why learning to keep ourselves ’emotionally clear’ is necessary for health, as well as happiness.


Whether we like it or not, we all have our ‘blind sides’ where we cannot see our ‘stuff’. The interesting thing is, other people can see our stuff!

I remember the day I realized I was super stressed: one day I just became aware that I was really, really stressed, and that I needed to do something about it for the good of my health. The funny thing was, as I saw this, I knew I had been this way for years, but until that moment I had not ‘re-cognized’ it consciously. Upon having the recognition, I then saw that everyone else had been seeing it, but not me!

As human beings we are simply ‘not aware of what we are not aware of’, until we become aware. This is the key to healing most illnesses and unhappiness: becoming aware of what we were previously unaware of, and then having new choices.

As the saying goes, we can never see ‘the dark side of the moon’, and so it is with human consciousness. We need help to see our blind side, and this is why a coach is so invaluable and can save you years of  pain and thousands of dollars in wasted effort.


Recovering from chronic illness is not easy. It can often bring us to our knees, but there is a reason for it, and lessons to be learned, and a gift in the journey. We must be prepared to put in the work, to persevere, to commit to ourselves no matter what.

As one of my first teachers said “healing is a journey of transformation: when you heal you change and are never the same again”. True healing requires that we transform and transcend our previous self. This is going to require change on all levels: mental, emotional, physical and spiritual. Often illness is a sign we have gone off track, and it is a way of bringing us back on track.

Illness is never random, it always has a message, a story, a meaning. It is our body trying to tell us something, because our natural state is to be healthy, so if we are experiencing anything but this, it means we need to do and learn whatever it is to return to our natural state of health, which is possible.

In the words of Winston Churchill, “never, never, never give up”.

About the author

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Kim Knight is a health and empowerment coach who helps women ‘who do too much but value themselves too little’ to take back control of their life.


Crisis? What (Health) Crisis?


“And if you know who you are,
You are your own superstar
And only you can shape the music that you make”

Supertramp, Easy Does It

Back in the 80’s one of my favourite bands was Supertramp. Even though I would sing along to the lyrics, I never really took much notice of the words and didn’t understand their meaning. As my life understanding has expanded and evolved over the years, their words are making more and more sense. Whilst the lyrics of their songs pertained to the world in general, my topic of course is around health.

Without wanting to put too fine a point on it, ladies and gentleman, when it comes to our healthcare system and our understanding of health, we are in crisis.

The sad thing is, most people are not aware of this. They believe that getting ill is normal, and that there are no known reasons for this happening. They believe the body has made a mistake, is stupid and should operate at 100% capacity even when we are unconsciously doing things to it to consistently break it down. They believe it’s OK to fill it with drugs or cut bits out of it, and that this is the normal and natural way of doing things. Let me tell you, whilst this may be normal, it is certainly not natural, and there is a better way.

Ambulance at the bottom of the cliff

ambulance cliff 350

Unfortunately we appear to live in a society, in our so-called ‘advanced’ Western world, where it is not until we actually get ill that we think of implementing healthcare procedures. Our healthcare system is built on the philosophy and practice of going to the doctor once you already have symptoms in order to receive a diagnosis, which is generally followed by the suggestion of a cure or quick fix (most often by way of medication or surgery). In our so-called sophisticated world, this is considered normal. I can assure you it is nothing of the sort.

I too used to think this was normal. I grew up in the UK and the only healthcare option I ever knew of for the first 28 years of my life was going to a doctor. It never entered my mind that there may be other options. By the age of 7 I had experienced severe hayfever (for which I was given strong antihistamines) and ongoing ear infections, flus, sore throats and consequently had my tonsils taken out at age 5 (thus depriving me of the very parts of my immune system which were actually doing their job of endeavouring to keep me healthy), to name just a few of the ailments I experienced. Never did my parents think there could be a reason for these symptoms beyond either randomness and bad luck or ‘it’s the pollen and bugs’.

By the age of 18 years I had experienced appendicitis (the offending appendics being taken out, there goes more of my immune system), shingles (no medication available, just weeks of bed rest), excruciating bladder infections (requiring invasive surgical procedures and drugs), intense thrush infections (yet more medication), yet more hayfever and nosebleeds (requiring yet more antihistamines) to name a few more of the ailments I experienced.  Always the answer was to go to the doctor, be given an option of either medication or surgery, and that was apparently the answer. There was never, ever, any questioning as to why the symptoms were there in the first place, and did they have an intelligent reason?

Now, let me say, and I have said this before, I am not anti-medication or anti-doctor. No, indeed not at all. I am highly grateful to both these healthcare solutions, but the reality is, we must start to wake up to the reality that these solutions are not the only answer, and often or mainly represent in truth the ambulance at the bottom of the cliff solution. Physical symptoms are the end result of a body and mind which is not happy. Our body may not be happy mentally, it may not be happy emotionally, it may not be happy physically, and dare I say it (because this word is almost taboo in our society) it may not be happy spiritually. We must look deeper if we want to find the cause of our illness or dis-ease.

What Crisis?

“We may have the latest hifi systems and super-duper home lighting systems, but do we actually know how to operate our own body?”
Kim Knight

So what is the crisis I am talking about here?

It’s a crisis of awareness… or rather of ignorance… and in particular of being ignorant (which means to ‘ignore’) the truth of what is. We are very much unaware, despite the fact we feel so advanced with all our whizz-bang technologies, of what really causes illness and how to rectify it without medication or surgery: we may have the latest hifi systems, or super-duper home lighting systems, or luxury jet liners and superyachts, and many other amazing technologies, but do we actually know how to operate our own body? For most people the answer to this is a definitive no – we are highly ignorant as to the internal workings of our body and mind. Our consciousness and awareness it seems have a long way to go in catching up.

And herein lies the problem. We wait until we are in crisis before doing anything, because we are unaware of the damage that is happening to our health before things get too late and we are already ill with symptoms. We do not recognize (‘re-cognize’ with our mind) the signs along the way. We think it is normal to get ill, when it really is not. We are unaware of what creates illness, or health, and many people are unaware that options beyond even medication or surgery even exist!

This was how it was for me 30 years ago. I had no idea there were other options, until life became so bad I was forced to seek out other options because what I was doing was not working. And thank goodness there were, and are, many other options to be found. And even though these options exist right now, apparently less than 0.1% of the population are aware of them! Not even one percent!

Time for Change

Recently at a healthcare congress in New Zealand it was made quite clear to delegates that our current level of healthcare costs are already unsustainable, and predicted to get worse unless something changes. Healthcare spending is the highest budgetary item for government right now, and most of it still focuses on the ambulance at the bottom of the cliff approach to healthcare.

At the same conference, a doctor shared how in only 40% of doctors visits is a health diagnosis usually made, and only 5% of the time can the cause of illness normally be determined.

The very sad fact is, there are many therapies available today which do know how to identify the cause of illness, (many of which I have trained in), but unfortunately, we still live in a society which is unaware that these other solutions exist. It’s a sad fact, and a fact which must change if our healthcare system is to improve.

People must learn that it is they themselves who must take a high degree of responsibility for their health. If we learn to be in tune with our mind, emotions, body, spirit and environment, we can learn to spot the signs of illness before they manifest as symptoms. This is all possible, and is the highest level of prevention and self care.

We can also learn what really causes illness in order for our body to bring itself back into balance without medication or surgery. It is all possible, it is all here now, if you know where to look, who to go to for help and how to implement these rather different healthcare strategies. It is all possible right now, but the question is, are you ready for this? Are you ready to take radical responsibility for your health, to become self-masterful in all areas of your wellbeing? Or would you prefer to rely on something external, or even internal (meds, supplements) to change your bio-chemistry? Are you ready for a new era in healthcare?

Because you see, you must be open, ready and willing to see new horizons if you want to experience something new or different. A closed or fearful mind will not see these opportunities, as I have also written about in other blogs (eg ‘when perception is reality‘, ‘misperception the missing piece‘,’perceptual blindness – a barrier to healing‘and many more).

Despite the fact that many people are not yet ready for these answers, often because they have not yet experienced enough pain to want or need to change, there are many people who are looking for new solutions. And primarily it is to these people that I am speaking.

I know what it is like to want to have other options, and not to know where to look for them or find them. It’s disheartening and frustrating, and just prolongs the amount of time it takes to get well, not to mention the amount of money we may end up spending on healthcare solutions. Recently I watched a news item about a man needing a drug to ‘cure’ his cancer which cost $150,000. I was staggered. Seriously? It doesn’t have to be this way if you know why the body builds tumours, ie, the meta physical (‘beyond physical’) reasons behind illness, and how given the right conditions the body is designed to self-heal.

As I have said before, we do not need to wait until we are in a personal health crisis to look after our health, although many people unfortunately do. We can learn to spot the signs of illness before they happen, although for many of us (including myself) we often first have to get ill and then work backwards to understand the signs that were already there but we never spotted at the time! We humans are slow learners, and as one of my very first teachers said to me “we think we are so clever, but really we are still in Kindergarten”.

My wish for humanity is that we wake up en masse to the healthcare solutions that are already here, but not yet well known, and start to take advantage of them sooner rather than later. If we truly want to improve our personal health, and that of our healthcare system as a whole, we must do this, there is no other way out of our global healthcare crisis.

Which is why I say ‘self care – a revolution in healthcare‘ – the responsibility lies with each and every one of us to learn that taking care of our own health from the inside out is the only way to go, and ultimately brings the greatest results and highest levels of personal satisfaction. This is true sustainability.

Be well🙂


“You’re holding the world in the palm of your hand,
Watch’ya tellin’ your children you don’t understand

If you know what the meaning is

Oh-oh so you better beware,
So you better get, so you better get light in your head,
So you better get, so you better get peace in your head…”

Supertramp, from the album Crisis? what Crisis?

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Dr Spock talks Health and Innovation

Buckminster Fuller Change

“No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it.”
Albert Einstein

Imagine if you will, Dr Spock landing on earth for the first time and trying to convince people it really is possible to transport themselves to a spaceship by disassembling their molecules and then re-assembling them several seconds later in space. Most people would call him crazy and say it was impossible. Most people would think this type of thinking was in the realm of science fiction. And the reason they would do this is because this possibility is so far from their current level of reality, and they have not yet personally experienced such a phenomenon themselves, that they literally cannot comprehend or entertain even the idea of the possibility of it being true.

This was a bit how I felt at the New Zealand Healthcare Congress in Auckland this week.

The main theme of the congress was ‘Technology enabled Healthcare’ and how the health requirements of New Zealanders can be served via newly emerging technologies. As a business which relies heavily on technology, with all healthcare solutions I provide being done so remotely and online, I was curious to see what I could learn by attending.

A second core topic under discussion was the government’s newly published ‘New Zealand Health Strategy 2016-26′, and how we in New Zealand want to see our healthcare system progressing over this period to meet the needs of its citizens.

Technological Change and Yet Not Enough Change?

It is quite clear that over the past 50 years, and especially in the last 10, our world has irrevocably changed as a result of technological progress.

Personally speaking, my business has significantly transformed in the last 10 years as a direct result of these technological advancements: all client consultations are now conducted remotely online to and from anywhere in the world, and many clients are learning how to take care of their health through remote self-help 24/7 online programs. These healthcare delivery options were not even in my consciousness 10 years ago when I only saw clients face-to-face in clinic, and I had never even dreamt of the idea of delivering online healthcare 10 years ago in 2006.

These significant advancements are also affecting the overall health system in New Zealand, and indeed the entire world, and they have the potential to radically transform healthcare in an enormously positive way.

But there is another factor which needs to change alongside these technological advancements if we are to truly harvest the rewards of technological progress, and that is a change inside the human consciousness that is creating and delivering the solutions. And specifically what needs to change is the understanding of what either creates or dis-creates health or illness at a fundamental level. 

If we have brand spanking-new technology, but are delivering the same, albeit-improved, healthcare solutions via this technology, without also upgrading our understanding of the root cause of the problem (ie the real cause of disease, understanding the laws of health etc), then in effect not much, or not enough, will change as an end-result for the end-user (client/patient), or the system, or world, as a whole.

In other words, even if we have whizz-bang online patient portals which significantly reduce the likelihood of error in record-keeping, and where healthcare providers and patients can instantaneously access health records, or Watson-like machines which can remember and sift through a gazillion terrabites of data in seconds to draw a diagnostic conclusion, or sci-fi like body scanners which can assess the physiological status of a patient without internal examination (which are all phenomenal feats and advancements in themselves)… if the same solutions are being delivered to patients from the same old thinking (for example, illness is either random or genetic, and the overriding solution is medication or surgery) then our health system will fundamentally not change, and the financial burden which is currently weighing the country down will continue to increase.*1

A New Paradigm of Healthcare 

You may have heard the story of a ship appearing off shore on the horizon and the inhabitants on land could not see the ship?

In the film ‘What the Bleep do we know?’ Dr Candice Pert describes how “When the tall European ships first approached the early Native Americans, it was such an ‘impossible’ vision in their reality that their highly filtered perceptions couldn’t register what was happening, and they literally failed to ‘see’ the ships.”

Apparently also “South Americans could see the boats that the explorers landed in, but not the ships anchored offshore. Their shaman stared out to sea and by imagining what he was looking for, was finally able to make out the ships. He was then able to point them out to others, until at last everyone could see the ships. The shaman could do this because he alone was open to the possibilities of strange things from other worlds”.

The story actually traces back to Captain Cook and his landing in Australia in April 1770. When Cook arrived off Australia, his ship drew no reaction. According to the historian Robert Hughes: “It was the largest artefact ever seen on the East Coast of Australia, an object so huge, complex and unfamiliar as to defy the natives’ understanding.” *2

This was how I felt many of my ideas and suggestions were received at the Healthcare Congress this week!

When I stood up and shared how it is already possible to identify the real root cause of symptoms and many health conditions, and how it is already possible to recover from many chronic and debilitating health conditions without medication or surgery, it was as though I was Dr Spock trying to explain the unimaginable or impossible. Because for the people listening to what I was saying, this was (is) how it was for them in their minds. It is currently unimaginable for them.

Interestingly enough one doctor stood up and shared how only 40% of patient visits to a doctor to find the cause of their symptoms, result in an actual diagnosis, (ie, a doctor is often only able to diagnose a specific health condition 40% of the time). He also shared that only in 5% of cases were the real cause of the illness or symptoms determined. Which means that 95% of the time, doctors are unable to explain to a patient why they are ill.

As I sat there and listened to this, I recognised a startling fact: what I, and my colleagues who work in a similar fashion, are doing is the other 95%! We fill that gap! Imagine how phenomenal it would be if we could come together and pool our information and resources? What difference would that make to the healthcare system? It would transform beyond recognition, and the quality of life for our society would be significantly improved.

But the stumbling block, as I so clearly experienced during the congress, is that this leap forward will require an openness and willingness from the currently prevading healthcare system, (which it appears to me primarily focuses on addressing symptoms with medication or surgery), to listen to this new information from people like myself and my colleagues who have a radically different, and dare I say it ‘evolved’, understanding of what it takes to get ill, (and get well).

Despite the fact that scientists such as Dr Bruce Lipton, (who has for some time now proven that genetic expression is a product of the environment, and genes are therefore not set in stone and unchangeable), old ways of thinking are still running the show. And these old ways of thinking are developing and running the new technology, which is and will severely limit overall and long-term progress. 

Despite the fact a pie chart in one of the congress presentations** clearly showed that 60% of factors influencing health correlate with behaviour, lifestyle, social and environment, (as opposed to 10% healthcare [presumably via the current prevailing medical model] and 30% genetics [which we now know has been surpassed by epigenetics]), medication and surgery are still apparently (according to most delegates at this conference anyway) considered the primary solution for most illnesses.

Despite the reality that it has in recent times been openly admitted as a fact, (a fact which was openly noted during the conference), that over 50% of most published research findings are false, mainstream medical practitioners still will not respect many of the proven, effective solutions which have already helped hundreds of thousands of people to transform their lives and which are offered by non-medical healthcare providers, unless they have double-blind randomised clinical trials for these therapies.

So it seems to me something still needs to change!


The last session of the congress was a collaborative exercise where we came together in small groups to share and discuss how we would like to see the healthcare system in 2021, 5 years from now, which is half way through the 2016-2026 plan.

As I sat and shared my desire of seeing clients educated in what creates illness, and educated in how to bring themselves back to health without medication and prevent further illness (which I am already offering right now, but would like to see happen on a bigger scale), my suggestions were met with disbelief, even with disdain by some. One lady turned to me and categorically stated she did not want to take responsibility for her health, and that she wanted a doctor to do that.

At first I was shocked. It is so long since I have not felt that I am the main person responsible for my health that I had forgotten that I too, 30 years ago, used to think the same way. Back then, before I went through a significant transformation in consciousness as a result of my own 20 year journey of chronic illness, I only thought of going to a doctor to get medication or have surgery, as an answer to whatever ailment I may have had. This was how the first 28 years of my life were spent, but that all changed, and now I have a radically different understanding of health, which is by the way constantly evolving.

I sat and pondered as the group continued to discuss our brain-stormed ideas, and realized that this lady was interpreting my ideas through her present reality of what it means ‘to take care of oneself’. Her idea of self care is radically different to mine, although she does not see that. For example her idea of self care may mean she chooses the dosage of her medication or what medication to take (which obviously needs to be done by someone qualified to do so), where as mine is how to learn and follow the laws of health to recover from illness and prevent reoccurrence of symptoms. So I realised she had a valid point, but given the fact we were allocated a grand total of 5 minutes to discuss everyone’s ideas, it was impossible to elucidate further at the time.

The groups were then called to gather around a whiteboard to share their findings as a collective. By this time my idea had been completely discarded, (along with other people’s ideas because we could only choose one for the main group discussion), the group favouring to focus on an effective patient portal for dissemination and accessing of patient records (which in itself is a great idea). Other suggestions from other groups were also being put forward. So I decided to stand back and observe the process of the discussion.

It became quite clear to me, that despite the validity of the ideas being proposed, which undoubtedly will make a positive difference for the healthcare system when enacted, they were still being proposed from the same level of consciousness that created the old (current) system. And as Einstein famously quoted “No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it.”

And here I was offering an idea from outside and beyond the consciousness that has created the current system, and no-one could take it on board, because they were not yet ready to hear it. The fact that I was, as far as I know, the only natural healthcare practitioner in the room, (which just classifies me as a healthcare practitioner without a medical degree but does not mean I do not have significant professional training), just goes to show what a minority natural healthcare practitioners are still considered to be, and how insignificant our ideas our regarded in the overall context of the current prevailing healthcare system).

Funnily enough, before the group collaboration began, we were given instructions on how to do the group brainstorming exercise, and were specifically told by the convener “You cannot change a problem from the same level of consciousness that created it”. And yet here we were as a group, envisaging the future, doing exactly that!

In his presentation just one hour earlier, Dr Dr Jens Mueller (and yes, that is meant to be ‘Dr’ x 2), Dr Mueller spoke on the topic of ‘what is innovation’? He postulated that innovation is ‘the reality of no things, and that imagination clears all physical hurdles, and that innovation is making true what does not exist’. He suggested in no uncertain terms that in order to change and create something better than what we already have, we must ‘focus on what does not exist’.

The amusing thing about this is, much of our healthcare system cannot even see what already does exist as a reality, (although not in their reality), never mind something which has not yet come into existence!

So you can see why our healthcare system is in trouble! Many of the solutions ARE already here (and there are more to come) but until people are ready to hear them they will remain invisible, just like the ship on the horizon.

An Individual Viewpoint

This made me think, after I returned home ‘so what is it that needs to happen for the current healthcare system to understand this new potential, this new paradigm in healthcare, which for some of us is already here, but for most still currently sounds like science fiction?

And I asked myself, ‘what is it, on an individual level, rather than societal level, that enables the clients that come to me for these solutions, who are ready to understand and take advantage of this new reality , that enables them to self-heal from conditions considered incomprehensible by many doctors’? *3

And this is the conclusion I came to:

Usually, by the time clients come to see me, they have already tried several, if not many other therapies, including traditional doctors and natural health therapists. But no-one has up until now been able to explain the fundamental cause of their symptoms, and therefore offer them a working-solution. Usually up until now they have either been offered something to dull or mask the pain (eg medication or surgery) or something to change the situation in an external way (even though it may also be taken internally, eg, supplements).

Before I go on, let me say I am not saying that these solutions are not either useful or necessary. I am just saying they are not the whole picture.

But here’s the important point relevant to the idea of quantum leaps in evolution:

By the time clients come to me, they are often at the end of their tether, and their life is severely disrupted. They are exhausted, in pain, and the symptoms are constant and ongoing. Some may be so ill they have had to stop work, while others may still be working but barely able to do so. Mentally and emotionally this brings overwhelm and even feelings of ‘how can I make it another day?’

The result of this wearing-down, metaphorically, and for some literally, brings them to their knees and to a place of “I’m willing to do whatever it takes to get well, if someone will just tell me what that is“. In other words, we reach a place of DESPERATION where we are willing to SURRENDER our current mindset and beliefs around what will and will not work, and are OPEN to new possibilities.

That is, we reach a CRISIS POINT where something has to break down in order to build something new, and that ‘something’ is our consciousness and viewpoint on health. We are willing to LET GO OF THE OLD and OPEN (OUR MIND) TO THE NEW. And then we are willing (in the case of clients who work with me) TO DO THINGS DIFFERENTLY.

This is very much what happened for me personally on my 20 year journey to find health. After trying over 140 different therapies over a period of 5 years, and experiencing little to no change in my chronic fatigue symptoms, I got to a point of surrender, and that was my turning point. But even before that, I had an initial turning point when I decided I was willing to do whatever it took to get better, no matter the cost. A recent 88 year old client, herself having suffered over 55 years of chronic fatigue and depression, and who got well within 6 months following one of my online Mickel Therapy programs, said the same thing when I spoke with her after her recovery: in her words “I decided I was willing to do anything, I simply was not going to spend my remaining few years feeling this ill”.

Openness and Willingness to Change

So one of the essential keys to change is an openness and willingness to see and do things differently. This requires courage and a certain level of what seems like risk, because for most of us we have not done this, or been here before. This is new territory!

Another factor which can influence people’s urge to change is when we hear startling stories of medical misadventure such as shared by Jake Bailey at the gala dinner during the congress. Whilst Jake emphasised many times during his speech that his life had literally been saved by all the carers, medication and technology at the hospital, and that he is eternally grateful to the staff whom he now regards as friends, there could not have been one person in the room that evening who was not moved by how much (potentially unnecessary) pain he endured as a result of poor communication between medical departments and certain other factors. The point here is, no one likes to suffer, and more than that, no enjoys watching other people suffering, (unless of course you are a masochist, which fortunately most people in the health industry are not), and when we do hear such stories (as we did that night) our heart opens up and we just want to do whatever it takes to make things better. In his case this means improving treatment protocol and guidelines (and likely more than this), and his story which is now being spread around the world will hopefully go a long way to improving standards of healthcare.

As we were being briefed for our exercise, the convener reminded us how the human brain is not wired for change and humans resist new things. (Actually the brain IS wired for change is as has been proven by recent research in neuro-plasticity, but that is another blog!) It is a fact that in certain ways our brain (specifically the brain stem, amygdalla etc) does not like change because it sees it as a threat to physical survival, but we must learn to go beyond this fear if we are to progress our understanding of and results in health. We must learn to use our neo-cortex! We must be willing to embrace new paradigms and understandings of healthcare if we want the quality of life of patients to look positively different in 10 years time. As the saying goes “insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result”. 

Another way of putting it is ‘we don’t know what we don’t know, we are unaware of what it is we are unaware of’. Unfortunately the lady who told me she doesn’t want to take responsibility for her health does not yet know that she can, and that actually it is significantly more empowering, and potentially for her more satisfying to do so. And unfortunately, with all due respect, much of the medical training in our society is still based on models which are already or quickly becoming obsolete, and yet the system is being run to a large extent by these models.

Evolution is a Fact

It is a fact that everything evolves and changes. This is quite clearly seen in the technology of today. If you look at how a television or aeroplane has advanced since the 1950’s, it is staggering! Most people simply cannot imagine what their digital devices will look like in 20 years from now (although there are scientists at work on this right now!)

It seems to me that advances in human consciousness, and specifically in relation to advances in understandings in health, are lagging behind for the majority of the population, and even for many healthcare providers.

New theories and solutions are already here, as demonstrated in newly emerging healthcare modalities such as Mickel Therapy, Moativational Medicine™, The Emotion Code, Advanced Clearing Energetics, EFT, NES Health, Meta Health and more. But even though more and more people are turning outside the traditional medical system for answers, simply because that system is not able to meet their needs, change is slow. As MP Simon O’Connor said during his congress speech, “The Ministry of Health is like a supertanker: it takes a long time to turn around, but it will eventually turn”.

I was given some hope as I listened to Simon O’Connor’s address, when he said how the New Zealand Health Select Committee really DO want to hear the public and the health industry’s ideas for change for healthcare, and DO want us to approach them with our ideas. In his words “Skype with us, make an appointment, take the opportunity to get in front of us, send a submission. Find a local MP, tell them what you are doing, and make sure you personalise your communication!”. I for one will certainly be doing so, look out minister!

Service above Self

I was also inspired by Director General Chai Chuah’s speech, for several reasons. Not only did he share his personal health challenges and let us in on his ideal 2021 day, he also said three words which caught my attention: SERVICE ABOVE SELF.

Yes indeed! This is what is needed if we are to truly revolutionise the healthcare system. We must go beyond our individual likes and dislikes, beyond our personal preferences and beliefs, beyond our current limitations, to hear and understand the truth.

As I sat there at the end of the conference one thing became quite clear to me: the current prevailing medical system has some of the answers, and new healthcare practitioners such as myself, despite not having the words ‘dr’ in front of our names, have answers too. We need to pool our resources, knowledge and wisdom if we wish to successfully move forward for the benefit of patients, society – and the gross national debt!

My challenge right now is in learning how to communicate my understanding of health to those who have not yet come across the information and strategies I am privileged (through a dam lot of hard work might I say) to now know.

Whilst I am often told by my clients that I explain things very clearly and succinctly so that things ‘just make sense‘ and in fact are ‘just common sense‘ (although unfortunately not yet so common), it’s hard (even impossible) to do this for people until they are ready to hear the information. In other words, for most people, they had to get to that place of breakdown and be desperate enough to be willing enough to hear and do something new, because the old clearly was not working for them and their quality of life had become intolerable. They are ready for change, and specifically their consciousness is ready for something new.

Unfortunately it seems our current prevailing healthcare system has not yet reached that tipping or turning point. During his presentation on ‘Private Funding in MoH (Ministry of Health) Strategy, Roger Styles, CEO Health Funds Association NZ, clearly stated that the public system / government cannot sustain the current and projected increase in healthcare funding, which is why the MoH is now considering private funding.

My question is, what will it take for the system to recognise there are already, right now, answers which could significantly reduce the costs of healthcare AND bring greater quality of life to our population?  I hope for one it is not a total crisis!

So I will leave you with a quote by a brilliant and forward-thinking scientist and philosopher of our age, Buckminster Fuller, whose granddaughter I was privileged to have met some years ago:

“You never change things by fighting the existing reality. To change something, build a new model that makes the existing model obsolete.”

R Buckminster Fuller


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*1 A startling fact I was reminded of at the conference is that New Zealands’ healthcare bill is the highest single item of government spending, and our country has the highest healthcare spend of all OECD countries: and that 22% of tax revenue is used on the public healthcare system, and this amount is projected to increase to 31% by 2060, which from the government’s standpoint is quite literally an unsustainable increase. 

*2 Excerpt from my blog ‘Perceptual Blindness – a barrier to healing’?  written in 2011.

** ‘Precision Healthcare’ presentation by Ian McCrae, CEO, Orion Health

*3 Primarily I help people with chronic fatigue, ME, post viral fatigue, fibromyalgia, irritable bowel, insomnia, stress, depression, anxiety, and any obscure pain or symptoms which seem to have no cause

The True Cost of Staying Unhappy or Unwell

Depressed woman with head in hands

When I was ill with chronic fatigue, and unable to work for over 10 years, before I discovered what was actually causing the problem (which took me 5 of those 10 years), I would have given anything to find out (a) what was causing symptoms and (b) what I needed to do to get well.

Funnily enough, years later after I was well again, a very astute business woman asked me a question which really quite shocked me:

Her question was “When you were ill, and searching for answers, what would you have given, or paid, someone like you, (ie me the now well-informed health coach), if they had turned up on your doorstep one day and said ‘I have the answers, I can help you’?”

I pondered for a moment, reflecting back on the many months and years I had spent hardly able to walk, do the shopping or function as a human being at all … I mentally added up the number of therapies (140+) I had tried in those first 5 years and the thousands of dollars that had cost me. I remembered the loneliness and frustration as I searched for answers which no-one seemed to have, including doctors and therapists, and the friends or family who could not understand what was going on inside of me when I looked so ‘normal‘ on the outside.

Wow, I thought. I would have given anything. Everything!

Whilst I might not have given ‘an arm or a leg’ (I was still just able to walk after all, and I did need to cook my meals), I would have paid anything for someone to tell me what on earth was going on and how to get well. If I hadn’t had the money in the bank at the time, I would have taken a loan to get it!

That was not my journey however.

I know now, that in a strange way, I was destined to go through a long, protracted journey just so that I could (a) understand in depth the necessary steps for getting well and (b) help others to do so too and (c) be able to help others avoid having to go through such a long process.

I know that I was meant to try (to this day now) nearly 200 therapies so that I could learn what works and what doesn’t in particular for chronic fatigue and pain conditions, and be able to recommend the best options to others so that they wouldn’t have to try hundreds of therapies and spend thousands of dollars.

I know now that this journey provided me with exactly what I would need to help others recover in the shortest possible time with the least amount of angst. I know this now, and am very grateful for my personal journey, even though at the time it was unbelievably difficult.

What is it costing you to stay unwell or unhappy?

This then made me think.

What is the cost of staying ill or unwell, staying where we are, not taking the steps to get better, even when we know we want to?

Yes, this is a very common phenomenon, the reason for which I will come to shortly. But first of all let’s look at the real costs, both monetary and otherwise.

For many people with chronic pain and fatigue conditions, (CFS, ME, adrenal fatigue, burnout, chronic stress, anxiety, depression, fibromyalgia, glandular fever, PVFS etc) their lives are severely disrupted, many to the point of either not being able to work at all, or to the point that they still are working when they really shouldn’t be.

Let’s take an example of someone who is not working at all: let’s say their salary is $50,000 a year. If they don’t work for a year, that’s $50,000 that is not going into their bank account, plus the additional money that needs to be found to live. 5 years and it’s up to $250,000. 20 years and it’s a cool million dollars!

And yet, over the past 11 years since I have been helping people through these health conditions, I have found that on average the recovery time is 3-6 months, with some people taking only a few weeks, and others up to a year.

Personally I lost out big time financially. I sold my then mortgage-free house and car to pay my living expenses and therapy fees. I was unable to work for 10 years. At the time I sold my house it was valued at $300,000. The value now would be close to $800,000! Since then I have been paying weekly rent, another $350,000! So that’s another cool million or more down the drain. It’s crushing to think about, so I do my best not to, and keep looking forward…

But do the maths (or as they say in the good ‘ol USA ‘the math’). Which option do you think is better financially? To spend a small amount of money now to get your life back on track, or to stay unwell for years and lose a lot more. It’s a no-brainer really.

Which leads me on to the next topic: how long do we wait before taking action to restore our health and wellbeing?

The quicker you make a start at getting better, the quicker you get better

Years ago in London, I ‘put my back out’ while cleaning the windows in my 3rd floor flat. I was leaning out the window trying to clean the outside of the window when ‘ping’ something ‘went’ in my back. I had never hurt my back before and I really had no idea what I had done. As a consequence of my ignorance around back issues, I continued on as before, and did not seek help. 3 months went by, and even though I wasn’t in any real pain, I found that my range of motion was getting more limited.

Then one day I was sitting on the edge of my bed putting a sock on, and I realized that I couldn’t reach my foot. I was 26 years old and I could not bend over to put a sock on! Something was surely not right about this! ‘Surely I should be able to put my socks on‘ I thought to myself, and then remembered back to the day 3 months earlier when I had tweaked my back. Putting two and two together (finally) I realized I needed to seek help.

At that time, the only medical practitioners I had ever seen in my life were a dentist, surgeon and doctor. I had no idea who to see for my back situation, but I knew none of these three were the answer. Somehow, after asking around, I heard of a therapist called an ‘osteopath’. Gosh, that was a revelation, there were other medical practitioners than doctors and dentists!

I made an appointment with this man, and the first thing he said to me after hearing my window-cleaning story was this:

‘You should have come to see me as soon as you had the injury because now the body has compensated for the injury and it has set in, which means it will take longer to get better’.

This one decision to not seek help as soon as I could have after the original injury would, unbeknowns to me at the time, haunt me for another 20 years, including countless appointments with many osteopaths, and even visits by ambulance to hospital for morphine to deal with the pain. But that’s another story…

If I had known better and been more in touch with what was going on inside my body I would have saught help straight away, and if I ever tweak my back now, I know to seek help immediately, ideally the same day.

However, back then, I was completely out of touch with my body, and had no idea about alternative practitioners, so I did what a lot of people do, and ‘just put up with it‘ until I could no longer tolerate the pain and inconvenience.

The point here is, whilst conditions such as CFS, adrenal fatigue, ME, fibromyalgia etc are indicative themselves of not having gotten help immediately (because one simply cannot be experiencing these conditions without there being a multitude of long-standing stress and emotional issues that have been going on for months, and often years), at least once we know we have a condition it is wise to do something about it and get help as soon as possible from someone who truly knows what to do about it. Because the longer we leave it, the worse it gets. And the quicker we start identifying and rectifying the root causes, the quicker we can get well. It’s just common sense.

Whilst on the whole I have found the quicker we get onto it, the quicker the recovery, and the younger the person, the quicker the recovery, I have also worked with people who have had serious symptoms for 20 years and recovered in 2 weeks.It does happen, but I highly recommend not expecting it. It takes months and years to build up symptoms of chronic debilitating pain and fatigue, and we need to be prepared to take the time to make the necessary changes to reverse the situation.

What is the true cost of not being happy or healthy?

So what is the cost of staying unwell? There is only one answer to this:


Every day, month or year that goes by and you cannot function well physically, mentally or emotionally is time you will never recoup.

Conversely, every day, month or year you are happy and healthy is time you can spend doing what you want with your life.

What is it you want to do with your life? A fulfilling relationship? Enjoy quality time with your family, children, parents, friends? Share your gifts with the world? What does your life mean to you? Do you want to be lying on your deathbed and be grateful and proud of what you have done in your life, or do you want to waste away year after year wishing things could be different?

Not only do we lose out financially if we cannot work, we lose every aspect of our life: work, family, friends, hobbies, fun…

But here’s the good news!

We can get better if we know how. We have a choice and the power of free will. We can change our circumstances, as long as we understand that this change ALWAYS starts with us and from within. And it starts with the decisions we take over if we are going to do something about our situation, or if we are going to keep coming up with excuses as to why we should not take action.

Which brings me to the final point of this topic:

What is it that is really stopping you from getting well?

Why is it, when we know we want to be well, that we can find every excuse in the book not to?

Usually the reasons we give ourselves are something along the lines of “I can’t afford it or “I don’t have the time“. Yes I have heard both these reasons as a therapist a lot!

My response to that, given the statistics above, is ‘can you afford not to’?

Over the past few years I have discovered why most people think they cannot afford to do what it takes to get well. This has been the result of many years of personal discovery plus seeing the same pattern turning up in clients:

Deep, deep down, unconsciously, we do not feel deserving of feeling happy or getting better.

Please note the word UNCONSCIOUS here. We are not doing this consciously! It is something that is usually happening well beyond our conscious awareness.

Deep within we can have beliefs running our psyche  called ‘transparent’ beliefs because we don’t see them. They are also referred to as ‘false’ beliefs because once they become conscious, even though they tend to feel real, they are not the truth. But we believe them because we don’t feel deserving of good things in life, such as happiness, success, abundance, recognition and more.

These beliefs are formed early on in childhood, usually by the age of 7 years, and run our every waking (and sleeping) thought and action, without us even knowing it. They are, in truth, what have led us to become ill or unhappy in the first place. 

It goes without saying that we must discover and clear these beliefs, and the original events which set them up, in order to transform our current situation. And this we can do, if we know how. And it can take much less time and be easier than we might think. But unless we decide to seek the help to do so, nothing will change, and we will stay exactly where we are, for another month or year…

I have dedicated the past 25 years to learning this ‘stuff’, and I know for sure that we can change our circumstances as long as we make the decision to do so, and then follow up with appropriate, consistent action.

As the famous quote by Goethe goes:

“Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back. Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth that ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favour all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamed would have come his way. Whatever you can do, or dream you can do, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it. Begin it now.”

Don’t waste another day, month or year losing out on your precious life. Get the help you need right now so that you can get on and live the live you were born to live.

If you want to know the power of having a personal health coach, read my article here.

And if you want to check out my online self help Mickel Therapy programs, you can do so here. Even the most expensive program works out to be under $20 a week over the period of a year. How much could that save you in the long-run? Maybe your life…

In health,












The power of a personal coach

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Imagine this scenario:

You have decided to climb Mt Everest, which you have never done before. You know you really want to get to the top.

You gather together what equipment you think you will need and set off. Imagine however that you have no map or compass, or personal guide to tell you which direction to go. You see the top of the mountain, it seems a long way off, and you set off in the direction you think is correct.

As you travel, sometimes you find yourself moving towards the mountain, but then the path seems to take a different turn, and you end up moving away from it. It gets frustrating. You wish you had someone to ask for help. To turn to for support. You wish you could ask someone for exact directions, a helping hand, a known, tried and tested route up the mountain.

You keep going, but after a few weeks, or months, or maybe even years, you start to get more and exhausted and despondent. Are you ever going to get there? The final destination never seems to get nearer. You just wish you had someone to talk to who could encourage you, support you, show you the way, tell you what to do, help you reach the summit. You start to wonder if you will ever get there…


Now imagine this instead:

You have decided to climb Mt Everest. You have engaged an expert guide from the start, someone who has climbed this mountain many times. They know the exact route to take, they know what equipment to take, they know how long it is likely to take to get there.

They tell you exactly what to pack, what clothes and equipment to bring, what NOT to bring, and show you they have a top quality tried and tested compass and a detailed map.

They show you the route on the map of how you will reach the summit together, and give you an idea of how long it will most likely take to get there. They sit you down and brief you on the pitfalls along the way, the likely hurdles of crevasses and rockfalls you will meet which if you were alone might scare you or make you want to give up.

Then you set off together. They carry your big pack for you so that you only have to carry your small backpack.

You don’t have to do any thinking or planning – they tell you exactly what you will do each day, you just have to follow them up the mountain path.They make you meals each day, put up your tent each night, and know exactly how far to walk each day to match your perfect pace and current abilities. They never go too fast or too slow because they know the perfect speed for you. But you must do the walking and follow their guidance.

One day at a time, you walk together up the mountain, the guide showing you how to navigate any landslides and laying down a ladder for you to cross dangerous crevasses.

Even though at times it seems to you like you are going in the wrong direction and moving away from the end goal, they assure you that you are going the right way and that you need to trust in their guidance because they have been there before, many times.

One day at a time you walk up the mountain, in exactly the right direction, gradually making your way up that huge ascent. And bit by bit you see that you are making headway, you are going in the right direction, you are on track, and you are getting close to summit.

Until one day you reach the top. You did it, you got to the top, with help, but YOU did it!

And now that you have done it once, you know the path, you know the equipment that is needed to get to the top, and you have this knowledge and equipment to use for the rest of your life.

Such is the power of a personal coach.

As Einstein once said: “No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it” 

A personal guide knows the route, they know the pitfalls, they know the unseen hills and valleys you will have to cross on your journey.

They can also see the blind spots in your psyche which you cannot, which will often keep you stuck until they are noticed by someone ‘on the outside’ of your consciousness. They know how to jump across crevasses and dodge landslides. They know how to take care of you when you just feel like giving up and turning back.

We must have new tools and fresh perspectives to solve our problems, and this is exaclty what I do as a coach for you.

Fed up of not knowing why you are unwell or unhappy?

Wanting to find a way out so you can get on with living your life?

You’re not alone.

Nothing is worse than having pain, exhaustion or ongoing unhappiness and not finding a cause or solution, or knowing what to do about it.

Perhaps these life challenges are turning up in the home environment, in relationships, with finances, at work, with colleagues, partners, family, friends…

No matter what is showing up in your life as an unwanted circumstance, a first ‘breakthrough’ session with Kim will get to the bottom of it, and then reveal the steps for transforming it… for good. 

By the end of a first breakthrough session with Kim you will:

  • understand how everything that has happened to you in your life has led you, whether you have realized it or not, to end up where you are right now. We call this the ‘law of cause and effect’.
  • understand the key events in your life which have contributed to issues of unhappiness and / or symptoms of illness
  • most probably have ‘lightbulb’ moments in piecing together the pieces of the jigsaw puzzle of your whole life and the current situation you find yourself in, so that you can clearly see what needs to be done to ‘undo’ or resolve the issues at hand
  • know that there ARE solutions at hand which up until now you have not yet known or seen, so that you have HOPE that you WILL and CAN come through this. You do not have to spend the rest of your life in mental, emotional or physical pain.

By the end of this session you will have become crystal clear on why you are experiencing your current (and maybe long-standing) health or (un)happiness issues. We will also map out the road to recovery via the options available.