On ‘checking your breasts’ and why it may pay to ‘check’ this first

by Kim Knight, the Kiwi Health Detective

Wherever you put your attention, that is where your Qi will flow.
Your Qi (life force energy) solidifies into matter.
So what’s really happening when you’re looking for lumps?
Could you actually be creating them?

I remember sitting in a seminar training 20 years ago and being told that checking my breasts for lumps could actually lead to creating them. It was new information to me at the time.

A few years later, when I started to learn about ‘Qi’ and the power of the mind, this advice began to make sense.

So whilst many women may get up in the morning and check their breasts in bed or the shower, I’ll share a new perspective on this ‘breast-checking’ thing, and what may be a complimentary and enhanced breast-checking practice.


In order to understand why looking for lumps may inadvertently contribute to creating them, we need to understand the nature of how matter (materia) is created in the human body, and in order to do that it’s useful to understand the nature of ‘Qi’.

Qi is an Eastern term commonly translated as ‘energy’ in China and ‘Prana’ in Indian yogic traditions.

Most people understand Qi (if they’ve even heard of the term, which many haven’t) as the ‘life force energy’ which fuels our body. And this would be correct – just like we need petrol to run our car, we need Qi or Prana to run our body at a fundamental level.

However Qi is much more than only energy. It is energy impregnated with information. A description of Qi by Qigong teacher Master Yuan Tze is ‘Energy + Information + Mass’ (E+I+M).

So now we have 3 elements to Qi: energy, information and mass.

So why is this important to understand?

According to ancient Chinese philosophy, built on thousands of years of wisdom tradition, and which most people have heard about through acupuncture, the most fundamental building block of life is Qi.

When you magnify down through the cells and molecules of a human body, down to a quantum level (one of the smallest units of measurable matter or mass) you get to Qi. It’s a microscopically small level of matter which appears and looks more like energy than matter, but there is still an element of matter in Qi which is why it still contains ‘mass’ or matter.

So we know there is energy and mass in Qi, but what is the ‘information’?

This is the bit that makes Qi interesting!

All the information in your body-mind, ie, your thoughts, conditioning, unconscious beliefs, habits of thinking, mind-patterning, memories etc, are the information which program your Qi.

In turn your Qi solidifies to form the solid matter (bones, muscles, nerves, brain, muscles, tissues, organs, cells, molecules…) in your body. So really you are just solidified Qi! (energy + information + mass E+I+M).


Yes, I know I’m getting a bit Qi technical here, but bear with me.

To make things simple, just latch on to the fact that in Chinese medicine, rather than seeing the body as different systems (nervous, skeletal, cardio-pulmonary etc) they divide a human body into ‘Jing Qi and Shen’, and see  a structure of ‘Qi rivers’ running through it called meridians which are accessed through acupuncture points or ‘Qi gates’.

In a nutshell, and put simply, Jing is the physical body (matter), Qi is life force energy (E+I+M) and Shen is the mind. This is important for understanding the next step…


Before understanding why checking the breasts could lead to creating matter (lumps), we also need to understand a few laws of Qi.

One law of Qi, drilled into students of Qigong and Acupuncture, is that ‘Shen is the Master of Qi and Qi is the commander of blood’.

Shen (the mind) commands Qi (energy, information and mass) which in turn influences the blood (which flows through our body feeding, nurturing and growing our cells).

In Chinese medicine Shen (the mind) ‘directs’ the Qi in the body, which in turn becomes the physical matter (Jing) of our body.

In other words, wherever you put your attention, that is where you Qi will flow. Your Qi (life force energy) solidifies into matter. So what’s really happening when you’re looking for lumps? Could you actually be creating them?

So this leads to the question, what is the callibre of your thoughts, beliefs, habits, conditioning? Is the information which you are directing into your body healthy and life-affirming or damaging and depleting? You need to know because one route will lead to health, and the other to illness.

This is why as students of Qigong we learn the importance of directing ‘positive information’ into our cells, tissues and body, because the ‘information’ within the thoughts and feelings is literally affecting and changing our cells on a minute-to-minute basis, whether we are aware of it or not! Because we cannot get away from the fact that Shen (the mind) is the master of Qi (the energy, information and mass). Whatever information (thoughts, emotions etc) you send into your body turn into solidified physical reality!

Shen and Qi together ‘program’ the body (Jing). In other words, the quality of your thoughts and emotions creates physical changes in your body.

So does knowing this give you a different perspective of what ‘checking for a lump’ could be doing? If you are looking for a cancerous mass, what information is your Shen giving to Qi to distribute to your body?

Now that we know this we can, if we choose, we can radically change our perspective on things.

As a practitioner of many years helping people recover from chronic illness, I can attest to the importance of putting ‘good information’ into the body. I spent many years not putting good information in, and ended up creating many chronic health issues, including chronic fatigue syndrome, asthma, UTIs, allergies, back pain and more. It took many years to unravel and reverse this, and my goal for you is that you don’t have to get chronically ill before you get a ‘wake-up’ call to change the quality of your Shen and Qi!

Your organs, tissues and cells will be affected by the quality of the thoughts and information you give them on a cumulative basis.


So here’s a quick tip and exercise you can use.

The next time you have a pain, symptom or diagnosis, start to pump ‘good healthy’ information from your Shen (mind) around your body through your thoughts and feelings. Imagine the area as bright transparent energy, and IMAGINE AND SEE IT ALREADY HEALTHY.

(And by the way, you don’t have to have an illness to do this – you can use this as a health maintenance and illness prevention strategy, which is what the ancients have taught for thousands of years).

Send good healthy information to the area, see it already healthy or whole.

Whilst I am not suggesting instant miracles here, what I am saying is that that your organs, tissues and cells will be affected by the quality of the thoughts and information you give them on a cumulative basis. So what thoughts do you choose to give your symptoms or pain? Do you say “that hurts… I’m sick…” or do you say “everything is already healthy”? What information are you directing into your body?

I know this can sound counter-intuitive at first, but we cannot get away from the fact that our Shen (mind) programs our Qi and Body (Jing).

And just a word of caution – usually illness is created by an accumulation of negative thinking / habits / emotions / stress/ traumas etc, so to effect true complete healing we WILL need to address these issues. This is what I teach in my 9 pillars of health mastery, where we address all areas of your life to effect complete healing on all levels from the inside out, and as much as possible without the need for medication or supplements.

But as far as checking your breasts, if you’re going to ‘check’ them, please send positive, healthy information into them simultaneously, and give more focus to them being healthy than on having a lump!

And at the same time, you can lovingly massage them and thank them while sending in the good energy and information. This will be much more beneficial because your thoughts and feelings really do create the reality of your body!


You can check out my free ‘what causes illness’ or ‘what healthcare is right for me’ series for more ways to enhance your health from the inside out.

My colleague Johannes is running a webinar on what really causes breast cancer. IT WILL BE FASCINATING. If you are fed up of hearing the media going on about ‘finding a cure’ (and never doing so), or know someone who would like an alternative medication-free surgery-free option to breast cancer, THIS IS A MUST-WATCH EVENT. You can register here for the webinar.

Be well!


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Toxic people – do you know how to deal with them?

When we have a backlog of emotions like fear, grief, disappointment, anger, sadness and frustration inside of us, it literally changes the biochemical make up of our cells, and it changes how we feel, think and act the world. We become toxic!

I was reminded this week of what it’s like to experience and have to deal with ‘toxic’ people.

Unfortunately this is a far-too common experience for many of us.

For a long time I did not recognize the signs of a toxic person. This was because I grew up in a family where it was ‘the norm’ to be dumped on by one particular family member. I just got used to being put down, critisized, judged and humiliated and never thought it could be any different.

Unfortunately if we experience such behaviour in childhood we can grow up into adulthood tolerating this kind of behaviour and thinking it’s the norm and ‘we just have to put up with it’.

I can assure you nothing could be further from the truth. It’s never OK to tolerate nasty behaviour from others.

So how do you know if you have a ‘toxic’ person on your hands, and how do you manage them?

First of all let’s define a toxic person and understand why they are the way they are.


A toxic person will often or usually have a very negative outlook on life, and this will be demonstrated by the words that come out of their mouth, and their actions.

If you say something ‘positive’ they will turn it into a negative. They will put you down, demean, critisize, be sarcastic, judgemental, mean, cruel, unkind and more. They may have an ‘acid’ tongue (and I’ll explain the literal meaning of this in a moment).

For example, you come home with a joyous piece of news, you’re feeling really great, and you just want to share your joy. They immediately belittle, put down or ignore what you have to say, crushing your happiness in a second.

They always seem to be in a bad mood, they have nothing good to say. They are just plain miserable, inside and out.


As I mentioned above, toxic people have an ‘acid tongue’. This is literally because they are over-acidic inside at a biochemical level! If you were to get a PH thermometer and pop it in their mouth, it would show high on the acidity scale, and as humans we are meant to have a more alkaline balance.

So why are they so physically and emotionally acidic?

Because of the acid emotions they still have stored inside them!

When we have a backlog of emotions like fear, grief, disappointment, anger, sadness and frustration inside of us, it literally changes the biochemical make up of our cells, and it changes how we feel, think and act in the world! We become physically and emotionally toxic!

So why are all these stored emotions stuck in their body?

Because they have not had the opportunity to heal themselves from the pain they experienced growing up, from the toxic environment around them. Deep inside they are in pain.

And so the hurt and anger that is still inside seeps out onto others.  And sometimes it just splurges out, a pseudo ‘vomiting’ of toxicity onto others.

And what’s really hiding underneath this behaviour?

A deep cry for love and attention. 

As humans we have a deep need for love and affection, and if these needs are not met during the early formative years of life (0-7 years), we will continue to try and get them met in adulthood, but if we are completely unconscious to the back log of stored unhappiness inside of us, it will come out by unconsciously dumping the pain on others.

Dumping and projecting our pain onto others is the universes’ way of trying to get our attention to the fact that we ourselves are not happy.

But the problem is, until we see ourselves we cannot see any of the meaning in all of this. And so we project our unhappiness onto others, blaming the outside world for our own unhappiness, and it’s all happening unconsciously…. until it becomes conscious and we become self aware.

It’s essential to understand that no matter how much another person is hurting or is unconscious about their feelings, they do not have the right to take it out on someone else. This is verbal and emotional abuse.

So how do I know all this to be true?

Because I was one of those people that ‘dumped’ my anger onto others. I had no idea at the time I was doing it. I had no idea I had years of trauma and stored hurt inside of me. I had no idea this was why I sulked and was sullen as a child, or why I often felt impatient and intolerant with others. I had no idea this was why I would get angry at the smallest thing or shout at people down the phone for no reason!

It’s taken years of emotional clearing work to clear away much of this backlog, and there’s still some left! But at least when I feel emotions now, and have the urge to ‘dump’ on someone I have the self-awareness to know it’s MY stuff, not someone else’s. I can now refrain from taking it out on others, and instead own my feelings, process them myself, and then have more self-compassion for the little girl inside who never got the love she desperately wanted and needed from her parents. And if I do ever find the old toxic energy seeping out onto others, I front up, own up and apologize, which in turn heals my own heart.

And this is what we all have to do, especially if we have this backlog of emotions. We have to take full responsibility for our feelings and learn how to heal ourselves.

Because the thing is, only WE can change our life and change how we feel. And all the power to do so is inside of us, we just have to know how.

We teach people how to treat us


So, coming back to how do we deal with people when they are toxic, and unconsciously dumping all their hurt and pain on us?

It’s essential to understand that no matter how much another person is hurting or is unconscious about their feelings, they do not have the right to take it out on someone else. This is verbal and emotional abuse.

You will know when someone has not treated you right because your heart and gut brains will tell you so. You will cringe inside, feel ‘gutted’ (gut brain) and ‘hurt’ (heart brain). This is your body intelligence telling you it doesn’t feel right and it’s not OK. This is your internal emotional self defence system at work. (By the way, I have videos on Youtube about the 3 brains).

Now it’s up to you to do something about it, because no-one else can. It’s up to you to put a stop to such behaviour. And in the words of Dr Phil “we teach people how to treat us”.

So it’s up to us to learn how to put up clear boundaries and say ‘no’. It’s up to us to learn how to express our feelings honestly so that toxic emotions don’t build up inside of us. We have to learn it’s OK and necessary to meet our own needs. We have to learn we have a right to be happy and stand up for our self.

Teaching people how to be assertive and self-confident is something I spend a lot of time doing with clients. Learning how to be self-empowered is one of the most important and valuable lessons we can and must learn. And in every case so far, anyone I have worked with who has a chronic illness (eg chronic fatigue, depression, fibromyalgia, IBS etc) has a backlog of old hurts and emotional pains inside which need clearing).

You are not here to be anyone’s emotional punching bag. 

So next time you have a toxic person in your life dump on you, know that it doesn’t have to be this way. You are not here to be someone else’s emotional punching bag so that they don’t have to deal with their own unhappiness. (Unless you choose to do so. It’s really up to you!)

So have you had enough of this behaviour? Do you want a different way?

If you want to know how to say no, how to speak your truth, how to put a stop to toxic people in your life, this is exactly what I love helping people do.

Do join me in one of my online self help or live training programs. Because I want to help you be the happiest person you can be, and deserve to be.

And here’s a handy tip I’ve learned from 12 years of helping people put a stop to toxic partners, children, parents, friends, bosses, colleagues….

When we change our behaviour towards these people, they change their behaviour towards us, because they can no longer play the game! It works I can assure you, but often we are the ones who have to take the first step, or nothing will change.

And another tip – they become happier once a healthier emotional environment is established!

I will be going into more detail on this on my ‘Stop Bullies Now’ program (coming soon – keep an eye on my website or if you are signed up on any of my free programs you will get notification!).

Or you may wish to join my ‘Stop Depression Now’ program which also teaches how to identify and clear the backlog of emotions which build up to become ‘de-pression’.

Until then, stay strong and don’t put up with toxic people in your life! You are not here to be someone else’s emotional punch bag.


The Kiwi Health Detective


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8 roadblocks to healing

From my own very long journey back to health from chronic fatigue, depression and many other ailments, plus working with hundreds of women, I have noticed there are certain habits, traits, beliefs or patterns which will halt progress in its tracks. Here they are…


This is one of the biggest misnomers that people looking for a solution will have: expecting healing to happen overnight, or even in a few weeks.

Why is it unrealistic to think this?

Because in 99% of cases, illness takes years to build up in the body, even before symptoms are noticed, and expecting an overnight change, without making the necessary changes within ourselves we need to make, is the biggest mind trick ever. In every client I have yet worked with, the actual ‘set up’ happens within the first 10 years of life, but it is not apparent at this time.

Partly this expectation is fueled by our healthcare system which does offer ‘quick fixes’ in the form of medication or surgery. For example, anti-depressants can take effect in a few days or weeks, allowing us to continue on with our daily life as before, without ever asking the question ‘why am I ill in the first place?’ Blood pressure pills can balance our blood pressure in days, but if we don’t explore why the pressure is out of balance in the first place, we are just placing the proverbial plaster on the wound.

The problem with this is, unless we discover and address what created the symptoms, the real problem is not being addressed, and symptoms are merely being masked, and will usually re-occur in some other form sooner or later.

Advertising also fuels this misnomer. How many ads have you watched telling you that if you have the flu or a strained back ‘just take xyz medication’ and you can get on with your day as if nothing has happened? No! If your body is sending you symptoms, it is asking you to take stock of what is going on in your life to understand what has brought it into this state of ‘dis-ease’. If you have the flu, the natural intelligence of your body is telling you it needs to rest and repair. Your body is not a machine and it deserves your care and respect! If you have chronic fatigue syndrome, your body is telling you to stop and re-assess your whole life, and how you are ‘doing’ life. Every symptom has a message which is waiting to be interpreted, and this must be done.

So expecting your body to self-repair overnight or in one session is simply unrealistic, and this must be understood and accepted. Then the real work of healing (which means ‘to become whole’) can begin.


Often we can think that one therapy will be the one-stop-shop solution.

In my experience as a practitioner working with many clients, this is less likely to be the case. For my personal experience, I had to test and implement a number of methods to get results.

Whilst some people can hit on one therapy which will be the one ‘miracle cure’, the percentage of people this happens to is much less, and in my personal experience I would say about 5% of people are this fortunate. For the other 95%, we are going to have to use more than one approach.

Why is this?

Because finding and addressing the real root cause of illness, and all the many potential contributing factors, is not that simple. There may be physical factors, emotional reasons, belief and thinking factors, dietary issues, geopathic stress, environmental issues,  toxic issues, people issues, genetic or epigenetic issues, lifestyle and habit factors which need to be addressed. The list is long.

Many therapies are developed to focus on one particular issue, and may be perfect for that, and brilliant at addressing that one particular issue, but just like expecting ‘one religion to fit all’, it is unrealistic to expect that a therapy will address all causes.

So for example supplements can help with nutritional deficiencies, but they will not address the trauma and stress of dealing with an abusive partner which is creating the ‘dis-ease’ in the digestive system in the first place.

Plus what works for one person will not necessarily work for another! Which is why it is so important to follow our ‘gut’ feeling to find what ‘feels‘ right for us, and why healing is a journey of self-discovery. We must be prepared that we may need to use multiple approaches and that this will not happen overnight.

In my experience, getting well from a chronic illness is a cumulative process, where finding and implementing different strategies will eventually, sooner or later, help us to reach our goal of wellness.


This is a very common expectation, especially if we have been ill for a long time. Of course we want to be well again, but putting time deadlines on the body does not work at all. In fact, it slows down progress because it puts our body under pressure to achieve a result it cannot achieve without right understanding of what has caused the problem, and right rectification of that problem.

A much better question to ask is ‘what is it I need to learn or change in my life in order to bring my body back into balance? What is it I need to do to stop damaging my body‘. Once we discover this, and implement it, and once our super intelligent body sees that we mean for real to live our life in a healthier way, and we have proven that we are no longer going to ‘damage’ it with negative beliefs, behaviours and actions, it will bring itself back into health. It doesn’t want to be unwell any more than you do, but it will keep you unwell if there are still lessons to be learned.


While it is true, useful and sometimes very necessary that we receive emergency treatment, medication or surgery, we must look at the bigger picture. We must understand that our body is a self-healing mechanism that can and will self-heal given the right circumstances.

The more we understand this, the more self-responsibility we can start to take for our health. We become more aware of what it is that WE are doing to create or perpetuate illness. Then we can start to make necessary changes and get a different result. As the saying goes ‘the definition of insanity is doing the same thing again and again and expecting a different result‘.

Initially it may feel scary to feel that we play such a huge role in our health, but ultimately when we take back our power and become self-masterful, it is a highly satisfying and empowering experience.


When a client comes to me and says ‘I’ve tried everything’ my first question will be to get a specific list of what ‘everything’ means. Usually I find although it may seem like a long list to the person, it is not nearly ‘everything’. Usually the number will be somewhere between 5 and 20 therapies.

Having tried and tested nearly 200 therapies myself, and trained professionally in 20, I know that I am also nowhere near to ‘trying everything’! There are an abundance of health modalities in the world today, and the more countries and cultures you experience, the more health approaches you will discover. On my journey to discover solutions to my illness, I travelled to Egypt, Mexico, USA, Canada, Costa Rica, Guatamala, UK, Fiji, Australia, New Zealand and more and discovered some truly unique therapies!

So whether you have tried 5 or 50 therapies, why is it that thinking we have ‘tried everything’ will prevent our progress? Well, for 3 core reasons:

  1. When we think we have ‘done it all’, we close our mind to new possibilities, and when our mind is closed, it cannot learn something new. In order for the change and transformation we are seeking to occur, we MUST be open to new information and possibilities, otherwise we are doing the ‘same old same old’ again and again, even if it is with a different method.
  2. We may often have tried many therapies, but have you yet tried the right approach for what you need? If we are not using an approach that addresses the real root cause of the symptom, then it is unlikely we will find the answer. Most people are unaware that many health approaches never get near the root cause.
  3. If we really have tried multiple therapies and nothing is working, then we need to ask ourselves one question: ‘what is the common denominator here?’ – and of course it’s us! Which means there must be something in us which is not yet changing or open to change, and this holds the key to the breakthrough we are looking for. It also means there is some vital piece of the puzzle which is still missing. We must find this piece, and this is precisely what I offer in my foundation ‘Kiwi Health Detective Session‘. In one 90 minute session we discover those missing pieces.


Similar to ‘I’ve tried everything’, the thought that we already know the answer will block our ability to see and hear new possibilities. We must keep our mind open to new information.

We must also let go of what we think we know and develop ‘beginners’ mind’.

As ancient Masters say “You cannot fill a cup that is already full. Empty the cup first”.

Even if you think you already know it, let go of the urge to think or say this when receiving advice from an expert, because they may just say something which could change your life. Which brings me to the last point…


Now this piece of information is probably one the BIGGEST mindset changes that blows people’s minds if this is the first time they have heard it!

Physical symptoms are less likely, than more likely, to be caused by something that has nothing to do with any physical! Of course this goes against the grain of much of our ‘education’.

For me it was the missing piece of the puzzle: for years I tried physical therapies, never realizing that what was going on my mind and emotions was affecting my body. But as you will discover, everything we feel and think changes our chemistry, and chemistry is what makes our cells; when we feel and experience good-feeling thoughts and emotions, this will have a beneficial impact on our cells. When we feel and experience negativity and negative emotions, this will lead our cells to experience something completely different. This is why learning to keep ourselves ’emotionally clear’ is necessary for health, as well as happiness.


Whether we like it or not, we all have our ‘blind sides’ where we cannot see our ‘stuff’. The interesting thing is, other people can see our stuff!

I remember the day I realized I was super stressed: one day I just became aware that I was really, really stressed, and that I needed to do something about it for the good of my health. The funny thing was, as I saw this, I knew I had been this way for years, but until that moment I had not ‘re-cognized’ it consciously. Upon having the recognition, I then saw that everyone else had been seeing it, but not me!

As human beings we are simply ‘not aware of what we are not aware of’, until we become aware. This is the key to healing most illnesses and unhappiness: becoming aware of what we were previously unaware of, and then having new choices.

As the saying goes, we can never see ‘the dark side of the moon’, and so it is with human consciousness. We need help to see our blind side, and this is why a coach is so invaluable and can save you years of  pain and thousands of dollars in wasted effort.


Recovering from chronic illness is not easy. It can often bring us to our knees, but there is a reason for it, and lessons to be learned, and a gift in the journey. We must be prepared to put in the work, to persevere, to commit to ourselves no matter what.

As one of my first teachers said “healing is a journey of transformation: when you heal you change and are never the same again”. True healing requires that we transform and transcend our previous self. This is going to require change on all levels: mental, emotional, physical and spiritual. Often illness is a sign we have gone off track, and it is a way of bringing us back on track.

Illness is never random, it always has a message, a story, a meaning. It is our body trying to tell us something, because our natural state is to be healthy, so if we are experiencing anything but this, it means we need to do and learn whatever it is to return to our natural state of health, which is possible.

In the words of Winston Churchill, “never, never, never give up”.

About the author

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Kim Knight is a health and empowerment coach who helps women ‘who do too much but value themselves too little’ to take back control of their life. www.kimknighthealth.com


The True Cost of Staying Unhappy or Unwell

When I was ill with chronic fatigue, and unable to work for over 10 years, before I discovered what was actually causing the problem (which took me 5 of those 10 years), I would have given anything to find out (a) what was causing symptoms and (b) what I needed to do to get well.

Funnily enough, years later after I was well again, a very astute business woman asked me a question which really quite shocked me:

Her question was “When you were ill, and searching for answers, what would you have given, or paid, someone like you, (ie me the now well-informed health coach), if they had turned up on your doorstep one day and said ‘I have the answers, I can help you’?”

I pondered for a moment, reflecting back on the many months and years I had spent hardly able to walk, do the shopping or function as a human being at all … I mentally added up the number of therapies (140+) I had tried in those first 5 years and the thousands of dollars that had cost me. I remembered the loneliness and frustration as I searched for answers which no-one seemed to have, including doctors and therapists, and the friends or family who could not understand what was going on inside of me when I looked so ‘normal‘ on the outside.

Wow, I thought. I would have given anything. Everything!

Whilst I might not have given ‘an arm or a leg’ (I was still just able to walk after all, and I did need to cook my meals), I would have paid anything for someone to tell me what on earth was going on and how to get well. If I hadn’t had the money in the bank at the time, I would have taken a loan to get it!

That was not my journey however.

I know now, that in a strange way, I was destined to go through a long, protracted journey just so that I could (a) understand in depth the necessary steps for getting well and (b) help others to do so too and (c) be able to help others avoid having to go through such a long process.

I know that I was meant to try (to this day now) nearly 200 therapies so that I could learn what works and what doesn’t in particular for chronic fatigue and pain conditions, and be able to recommend the best options to others so that they wouldn’t have to try hundreds of therapies and spend thousands of dollars.

I know now that this journey provided me with exactly what I would need to help others recover in the shortest possible time with the least amount of angst. I know this now, and am very grateful for my personal journey, even though at the time it was unbelievably difficult.

What is it costing you to stay unwell or unhappy?

This then made me think.

What is the cost of staying ill or unwell, staying where we are, not taking the steps to get better, even when we know we want to?

Yes, this is a very common phenomenon, the reason for which I will come to shortly. But first of all let’s look at the real costs, both monetary and otherwise.

For many people with chronic pain and fatigue conditions, (CFS, ME, adrenal fatigue, burnout, chronic stress, anxiety, depression, fibromyalgia, glandular fever, PVFS etc) their lives are severely disrupted, many to the point of either not being able to work at all, or to the point that they still are working when they really shouldn’t be.

Let’s take an example of someone who is not working at all: let’s say their salary is $50,000 a year. If they don’t work for a year, that’s $50,000 that is not going into their bank account, plus the additional money that needs to be found to live. 5 years and it’s up to $250,000. 20 years and it’s a cool million dollars!

And yet, over the past 11 years since I have been helping people through these health conditions, I have found that on average the recovery time is 3-6 months, with some people taking only a few weeks, and others up to a year.

Personally I lost out big time financially. I sold my then mortgage-free house and car to pay my living expenses and therapy fees. I was unable to work for 10 years. At the time I sold my house it was valued at $300,000. The value now would be close to $800,000! Since then I have been paying weekly rent, another $350,000! So that’s another cool million or more down the drain. It’s crushing to think about, so I do my best not to, and keep looking forward…

But do the maths (or as they say in the good ‘ol USA ‘the math’). Which option do you think is better financially? To spend a small amount of money now to get your life back on track, or to stay unwell for years and lose a lot more. It’s a no-brainer really.

Which leads me on to the next topic: how long do we wait before taking action to restore our health and wellbeing?

The quicker you make a start at getting better, the quicker you get better

Years ago in London, I ‘put my back out’ while cleaning the windows in my 3rd floor flat. I was leaning out the window trying to clean the outside of the window when ‘ping’ something ‘went’ in my back. I had never hurt my back before and I really had no idea what I had done. As a consequence of my ignorance around back issues, I continued on as before, and did not seek help. 3 months went by, and even though I wasn’t in any real pain, I found that my range of motion was getting more limited.

Then one day I was sitting on the edge of my bed putting a sock on, and I realized that I couldn’t reach my foot. I was 26 years old and I could not bend over to put a sock on! Something was surely not right about this! ‘Surely I should be able to put my socks on‘ I thought to myself, and then remembered back to the day 3 months earlier when I had tweaked my back. Putting two and two together (finally) I realized I needed to seek help.

At that time, the only medical practitioners I had ever seen in my life were a dentist, surgeon and doctor. I had no idea who to see for my back situation, but I knew none of these three were the answer. Somehow, after asking around, I heard of a therapist called an ‘osteopath’. Gosh, that was a revelation, there were other medical practitioners than doctors and dentists!

I made an appointment with this man, and the first thing he said to me after hearing my window-cleaning story was this:

‘You should have come to see me as soon as you had the injury because now the body has compensated for the injury and it has set in, which means it will take longer to get better’.

This one decision to not seek help as soon as I could have after the original injury would, unbeknowns to me at the time, haunt me for another 20 years, including countless appointments with many osteopaths, and even visits by ambulance to hospital for morphine to deal with the pain. But that’s another story…

If I had known better and been more in touch with what was going on inside my body I would have saught help straight away, and if I ever tweak my back now, I know to seek help immediately, ideally the same day.

However, back then, I was completely out of touch with my body, and had no idea about alternative practitioners, so I did what a lot of people do, and ‘just put up with it‘ until I could no longer tolerate the pain and inconvenience.

The point here is, whilst conditions such as CFS, adrenal fatigue, ME, fibromyalgia etc are indicative themselves of not having gotten help immediately (because one simply cannot be experiencing these conditions without there being a multitude of long-standing stress and emotional issues that have been going on for months, and often years), at least once we know we have a condition it is wise to do something about it and get help as soon as possible from someone who truly knows what to do about it. Because the longer we leave it, the worse it gets. And the quicker we start identifying and rectifying the root causes, the quicker we can get well. It’s just common sense.

Whilst on the whole I have found the quicker we get onto it, the quicker the recovery, and the younger the person, the quicker the recovery, I have also worked with people who have had serious symptoms for 20 years and recovered in 2 weeks.It does happen, but I highly recommend not expecting it. It takes months and years to build up symptoms of chronic debilitating pain and fatigue, and we need to be prepared to take the time to make the necessary changes to reverse the situation.

What is the true cost of not being happy or healthy?

So what is the cost of staying unwell? There is only one answer to this:


Every day, month or year that goes by and you cannot function well physically, mentally or emotionally is time you will never recoup.

Conversely, every day, month or year you are happy and healthy is time you can spend doing what you want with your life.

What is it you want to do with your life? A fulfilling relationship? Enjoy quality time with your family, children, parents, friends? Share your gifts with the world? What does your life mean to you? Do you want to be lying on your deathbed and be grateful and proud of what you have done in your life, or do you want to waste away year after year wishing things could be different?

Not only do we lose out financially if we cannot work, we lose every aspect of our life: work, family, friends, hobbies, fun…

But here’s the good news!

We can get better if we know how. We have a choice and the power of free will. We can change our circumstances, as long as we understand that this change ALWAYS starts with us and from within. And it starts with the decisions we take over if we are going to do something about our situation, or if we are going to keep coming up with excuses as to why we should not take action.

Which brings me to the final point of this topic:

What is it that is really stopping you from getting well?

Why is it, when we know we want to be well, that we can find every excuse in the book not to?

Usually the reasons we give ourselves are something along the lines of “I can’t afford it or “I don’t have the time“. Yes I have heard both these reasons as a therapist a lot!

My response to that, given the statistics above, is ‘can you afford not to’?

Over the past few years I have discovered why most people think they cannot afford to do what it takes to get well. This has been the result of many years of personal discovery plus seeing the same pattern turning up in clients:

Deep, deep down, unconsciously, we do not feel deserving of feeling happy or getting better.

Please note the word UNCONSCIOUS here. We are not doing this consciously! It is something that is usually happening well beyond our conscious awareness.

Deep within we can have beliefs running our psyche  called ‘transparent’ beliefs because we don’t see them. They are also referred to as ‘false’ beliefs because once they become conscious, even though they tend to feel real, they are not the truth. But we believe them because we don’t feel deserving of good things in life, such as happiness, success, abundance, recognition and more.

These beliefs are formed early on in childhood, usually by the age of 7 years, and run our every waking (and sleeping) thought and action, without us even knowing it. They are, in truth, what have led us to become ill or unhappy in the first place. 

It goes without saying that we must discover and clear these beliefs, and the original events which set them up, in order to transform our current situation. And this we can do, if we know how. And it can take much less time and be easier than we might think. But unless we decide to seek the help to do so, nothing will change, and we will stay exactly where we are, for another month or year…

I have dedicated the past 25 years to learning this ‘stuff’, and I know for sure that we can change our circumstances as long as we make the decision to do so, and then follow up with appropriate, consistent action.

As the famous quote by Goethe goes:

“Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back. Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth that ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favour all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamed would have come his way. Whatever you can do, or dream you can do, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it. Begin it now.”

Don’t waste another day, month or year losing out on your precious life. Get the help you need right now so that you can get on and live the live you were born to live.

If you want to know the power of having a personal health coach, read my article here.

And if you want to check out my online self help Mickel Therapy programs, you can do so here. Even the most expensive program works out to be under $20 a week over the period of a year. How much could that save you in the long-run? Maybe your life…

In health,













The power of a personal coach

Imagine this scenario:

You have decided to climb Mt Everest, which you have never done before. You know you really want to get to the top.

You gather together what equipment you think you will need and set off. Imagine however that you have no map or compass, or personal guide to tell you which direction to go. You see the top of the mountain, it seems a long way off, and you set off in the direction you think is correct.

As you travel, sometimes you find yourself moving towards the mountain, but then the path seems to take a different turn, and you end up moving away from it. It gets frustrating. You wish you had someone to ask for help. To turn to for support. You wish you could ask someone for exact directions, a helping hand, a known, tried and tested route up the mountain.

You keep going, but after a few weeks, or months, or maybe even years, you start to get more and exhausted and despondent. Are you ever going to get there? The final destination never seems to get nearer. You just wish you had someone to talk to who could encourage you, support you, show you the way, tell you what to do, help you reach the summit. You start to wonder if you will ever get there…


Now imagine this instead:

You have decided to climb Mt Everest. You have engaged an expert guide from the start, someone who has climbed this mountain many times. They know the exact route to take, they know what equipment to take, they know how long it is likely to take to get there.

They tell you exactly what to pack, what clothes and equipment to bring, what NOT to bring, and show you they have a top quality tried and tested compass and a detailed map.

They show you the route on the map of how you will reach the summit together, and give you an idea of how long it will most likely take to get there. They sit you down and brief you on the pitfalls along the way, the likely hurdles of crevasses and rockfalls you will meet which if you were alone might scare you or make you want to give up.

Then you set off together. They carry your big pack for you so that you only have to carry your small backpack.

You don’t have to do any thinking or planning – they tell you exactly what you will do each day, you just have to follow them up the mountain path.They make you meals each day, put up your tent each night, and know exactly how far to walk each day to match your perfect pace and current abilities. They never go too fast or too slow because they know the perfect speed for you. But you must do the walking and follow their guidance.

One day at a time, you walk together up the mountain, the guide showing you how to navigate any landslides and laying down a ladder for you to cross dangerous crevasses.

Even though at times it seems to you like you are going in the wrong direction and moving away from the end goal, they assure you that you are going the right way and that you need to trust in their guidance because they have been there before, many times.

One day at a time you walk up the mountain, in exactly the right direction, gradually making your way up that huge ascent. And bit by bit you see that you are making headway, you are going in the right direction, you are on track, and you are getting close to summit.

Until one day you reach the top. You did it, you got to the top, with help, but YOU did it!

And now that you have done it once, you know the path, you know the equipment that is needed to get to the top, and you have this knowledge and equipment to use for the rest of your life.

Such is the power of a personal coach.

As Einstein once said: “No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it” 

A personal guide knows the route, they know the pitfalls, they know the unseen hills and valleys you will have to cross on your journey.

They can also see the blind spots in your psyche which you cannot, which will often keep you stuck until they are noticed by someone ‘on the outside’ of your consciousness. They know how to jump across crevasses and dodge landslides. They know how to take care of you when you just feel like giving up and turning back.

We must have new tools and fresh perspectives to solve our problems, and this is exaclty what I do as a coach for you.

Fed up of not knowing why you are unwell or unhappy?

Wanting to find a way out so you can get on with living your life?

You’re not alone.

Nothing is worse than having pain, exhaustion or ongoing unhappiness and not finding a cause or solution, or knowing what to do about it.

Perhaps these life challenges are turning up in the home environment, in relationships, with finances, at work, with colleagues, partners, family, friends…

No matter what is showing up in your life as an unwanted circumstance, a first ‘breakthrough’ session with Kim will get to the bottom of it, and then reveal the steps for transforming it… for good. 

By the end of a first breakthrough session with Kim you will:

  • understand how everything that has happened to you in your life has led you, whether you have realized it or not, to end up where you are right now. We call this the ‘law of cause and effect’.
  • understand the key events in your life which have contributed to issues of unhappiness and / or symptoms of illness
  • most probably have ‘lightbulb’ moments in piecing together the pieces of the jigsaw puzzle of your whole life and the current situation you find yourself in, so that you can clearly see what needs to be done to ‘undo’ or resolve the issues at hand
  • know that there ARE solutions at hand which up until now you have not yet known or seen, so that you have HOPE that you WILL and CAN come through this. You do not have to spend the rest of your life in mental, emotional or physical pain.

By the end of this session you will have become crystal clear on why you are experiencing your current (and maybe long-standing) health or (un)happiness issues. We will also map out the road to recovery via the options available.


How precious is life really?

Have you ever stopped to wonder at how precious life is?

The older I get, and the more I clear out my past so I can make the most of the present and future, which means I can then live my purpose and follow my dreams, the more I realize the truth of this.

The funny thing is, when I was ill and unhappy, I never saw things this way at all.

In fact, I spent a lot of my time wishing I wasn’t here, wishing it was all over. It was just too hard, and all I experienced day after day was sadness, anger, depression, exhaustion…

Can you relate to this? Have you ever felt so bad that you have thought it would be easier for it to be over?

When we are happy and joyful, we want to live. And when we are unhappy or unwell, often we feel it’s just too hard to keep going. Or at least that was how it was for me.

This is pretty sad, but true for many people. And it has to do with what is known as the ‘scale of consciousness’.

Depending on where we sit on the scale of human consciousness, we will either experience life as enjoyable… or not.

So how you are living your life right now? Do you wake up every day feeling a sense of gratitude and awe for your life, glad to be alive? Or is every day a constant chore of a struggle?

If it’s the latter, would you like it to be different?

Because the truth is, our human life is very precious. And most of the time, and especially if we are unhappy or ill, we don’t realize the truth of this statement…


A few years ago I heard that the Tibetans have a saying: “Every human life is like a bubble in water”.

In other words, the bubble can burst at any moment.

Many of the people I know who are truly happy and successful say they had a ‘wake up call’ through an accident or illness, which made them understand the preciousness of life, and helped them realize that they wanted to make the most of every minute of the rest of their life.

For me it was not an overnight experience, but the hard work and perseverance is paying off, and I no longer ‘wish it was all over’.

It is said that we teach what we need to learn, and this has certainly been the case for me.

I spent most of my life being intensely unhappy and many years being ill. There were many times when I felt like it was just too hard to go on, too much of a struggle.

But something kept me going. And now I’m so glad it did, because finally I am starting to experience true happiness.

It’s been a lot of work, but the good news is that because I investigated this topic so deeply and for so long, I can now short-cut that journey for others.

Not that we don’t each need to do the work for ourselves, but when we have a guide who has travelled up the mountain before us, it makes it so much easier and quicker.

So this is exactly why I do the work I do.

I want to inspire people to know that they can be happy, they can be healthy, they can get to the top of that mountain.

And they don’t have to do it alone.

It EXCITES me to inspire others up that mountain!

And here’s the interesting thing:

There are just a few core reasons why we stay stuck at the bottom of the mountain, one of the biggest of which is this:

We don’t value ourselves enough. We don’t think we are good enough. We don’t feel we are ‘enough’.

Does this ring true for you? Do you feel good enough? Do you feel you are ‘enough’? Enough for your self… enough for others?

Without exception, including myself, with all the clients I have worked with over the past 11 years, this is the core, overriding issue at the bottom of unhappiness and illness. 

We simply do not feel good enough. We walk around with low self-esteem, low self-worth, low self-confidence, most of the time not even realizing we are doing so because we’ve been doing it for so long it has become our ‘normal’.

But here’s the problem:

If we do not value ourselves, we can never be truly happy or healthy or authentically successful. 

And low self-value leads to unhappiness and even eventually chronic illness.


Because when we do not value the truth of our wonderfulness, (yes, that phrase will feel uncomfortable if you cannot yet resonate with it as a truth), we will constantly do things to negate ourselves, put ourselves down, make ourselves feel bad, and allow others to treat us less than respectfully. We will abuse ourselves and allow others to do so too. We will constantly strive to be better, do better, feel better. We will push ourselves harder and harder, trying to be ‘ok’, but nothing is ever good enough! It’s exhausting. Right?  And so we unconsciously become the bringers of our own doom.

So what is the answer?

To learn to love ourselves, respect ourselves, VALUE OURSELVES. YOURself. That means you. Yes you.

So this is why I love one of the methods I use a lot to help people transform their life.

I love it because it teaches people how to value themselves, and when they start valuing themselves, their life transforms in front of their eyes for the better. In hours, days, weeks…

This method teaches people how to BE different in the world. How to behave true to themselves. It gives them the PERMISSION they never had as a child to be themselves, to be authentic. What a gift! To release one’s authenticity.

This method teaches YOU how to value yourself, put yourself first without feeling guilty, make yourself a priority in your life and feel good about it, how to say no rather than yes all the time, how to honour yourself, how to be assertive with ease, how to communicate your needs with others, and so much more.

And what is the result of this?
The result is we start to feel good about ourselves, maybe for the first time ever. We start to re-empower ourselves after years of giving our power away to others. We start to feel happy and healthy, maybe for the first time in years!

In fact the results of these simple techniques are extraordinary.

Depression lifts, anxiety transforms, and symptoms of illness disappear.

This is why I am such an advocate of this method.

Not only does it show people how to recover their health without any medication or supplements, but it does so by showing people how to take back control over their life. It shows them that it is their right to feel good about themselves, to put themselves first, to be happy, to do what is right for THEM.

So the wonderful thing about this method is that it serves a dual purpose:

1. It shows people how to value themselves, how to re-empower themselves, to look after themselves, and in doing so clears symptoms of anxiety, depression and unhappiness.

2. By doing all of the above it also helps people reduce and clear symptoms of chronic debilitating pain and fatigue, which were all brought on as a result of not being true to oneself.

How exciting and amazing is that? In a world which mostly tells us we have to take a pill to deal with chronic symptoms, this therapy shows people how their body and mind are the most magnificent self-healing machines, which , when given the right conditions, will bring themselves back to their natural state of health and harmony.

Which brings me to this…

The world’s FIRST EVER live group online Mickel Therapy coaching program will start in 3 weeks time…

All the details of my upcoming program are in this video and the info page which you can reach from the video page.

The most important things to know are this:

  • If you are looking for a step by step, pain by numbers technique for learning how to value yourself, say no without feeling guilty, put yourself first, create healthy work-life balance, be assertive, overcome the fear of speaking out, stop allowing others to take advantage of you, stop putting up with unfair treatment from others... then THIS is the program to do!
  • And if you want to know how to recover from a chronic illness, pain or fatigue condition, the tools in this program are a MUST. I have not yet met one client in 11 years who did not need to learn and apply these strategies! Not one!
  • I am offering a massive-value earlybird signup deal, including bonuses, which runs out in 24 hours… as you will see, the timer is literally ticking on the page… once the earlybird finishes the price goes up and this launch price will never be repeated.
  • If you want to pay by payment plan you can do so, but only if you sign up by the earlybird deadline – after that it is one pay option only. So if funds has held you back in the past, this option can help you make it super affordable.
  • Due to the enormous amount of time it takes to prepare and deliver a program of this calibre, this will probably be the only live Mickel Therapy group program I host this year.

I am so excited to welcome on board the people who have already registered for this course.

Will you join us if you haven’t already?

Go here to check out all the details

I really look forward to seeing you on the inside!

Cheers! Kim

ps – if for any reasons you have difficulty loading the above page, try this page instead.



The Key to Health: your GUT

I have a confession…

Over the years I have self-healed myself from multiple health complaints: chronic fatigue syndrome, adrenal fatigue, post-viral fatigue, clinical depression, muscle pain, insomnia, recurring back problems, asthma, allergies, severe hayfever, anxiety, stress, recurring UTIs (urinary tract infections), urticaria, hives and more.

I have done all of this without drugs or supplements, simply by understanding how the body works, and making the appropriate changes I needed to make in my lifestyle, beliefs and emotions.

However there are three issues which are still outstanding – the’ final frontier’: an underactive thyroid, low iron levels, and difficulty staying trim even though I eat pretty healthy and do not overeat.

A month ago I set myself up with a commitment to finally sort this out once and for all.

As the universe would have it, as soon as we absolutely commit to a cause, it provides the answers and solutions we are looking for. Finally the last piece of the puzzle is coming into place, and I am super excited. As usual I am my biggest guinea pig, always testing things out on myself before recommending to others. And this is the final piece: GUT HEALTH

Even though I know gut health is important, and I already knew that gluten impairs healthy thyroid function and iron uptake, I’ll be honest, I still was not paying enough attention to my gut. I realize now it’s time to change this, and in the last few weeks I have been discovering a whole heap more of essential information. For example, do you know …

• 80% of your immune system is located in the gut and the condition of your ‘gut flora’ will dictate, along with other factors such as stress, traumas, emotions and lifestyle, how the rest of your body will function
You carry 1.5 – 2kg of bacteria including over 500 species of microbes in your gut, and the quality of this bacteria will dictate the quality of your health
• A disfunctioning gut will impair your ability to think clearly, creating ‘brain fog’ and poor memory
• Poor gut functioning leads to anaemia and thyroid malfunction
• Vaccines, medication, antibiotics (including those ingested via meat and farmed fish), anti-fungal medication, hormone therapy, poor diet, stress, emotional trauma all lead to a compromised gut and immune system
• An impaired gut prevents the endocrine system (including thyroid) functioning properly
• Prolonged fasting, diets and overeating damage the gut flora
• Compromised gut flora is unknowingly passed from one generation to the next
• When the gut lining is compromised and becomes ‘leaky’, toxic substances pass through the gut lining into the blood, brain and nervous system, affecting proper functioning
Gut dysbiosis (imbalance) is considered a huge factor in the onset of autism, and autistic children have had huge recoveries from rebalancing their gut flora
• Chronic ongoing gut issues can lead to more severe health conditions including the big ‘C’

From a metaphysical (‘beyond physical’) perspective, the gut is all about ‘survival’ – both emotionally and physically. And through my recent research I am now learning how my gut intestinal health has been compromised literally since the day I was born, without me even knowing it…

Before you are born, your gut is a sterile environment. As soon as you are born, you start picking up your Mother’s gut flora as you pass through the birth canal, and then this continues as you start drinking breast milk. The first 21 days of life are critical for having your intestines populated by good flora. If you are fed bottle milk this seriously compromises this opportunity.

For myself, my Mother had a very traumatic birth, and I was a few weeks premature. I was then left in the hospital alone before being allowed home. Emotionally this was very traumatic and set up a ‘limbic imprint’ of fear and abandonment, which I have cleared extensively at an emotional level. Combined with the physiological fact of not being breast-fed, I now see that my ‘gut survival’ system has been on ‘red-alert’ from day one.

By age 6 years this chronic inflammation and stress started manifesting as recurring infections and hayfever, and silently within my gut was already set up to be compromised ongoingly. As the years passed this manifested as ongoing candida, UTIs, allergies, hives, urticaria and more. It didn’t help that my love of sweets and carbs, eaten as comfort food to fill the emotional gap, unknowingly further fuelled the silent candida in my gut.

Fortunately I have never had ‘overt’ gut issues or abdominal pain, but I absolutely know now that addressing my gut is the final answer to resolving these final issues of holding weight and low thyroid. Whilst I know that addressing emotional / psychological issues is paramount, (and where if have worked with me I place a huge amount of attention), the body also needs physical support in this matter. So this is my focus right now, and the information in this upcoming Gut Summit will go a long way to adding to what I have already learnt.

So if you have any issues with your gut, endocrine system, immune system, nervous system, brain, including allergies, asthma, eczema, chronic fatigue, pain conditions, or know people with autism, I highly recommend tuning into The Healthy Gut Summit which starts on Jan 18th 2016.

You can listen online for free, and / or pay a small amount to have the recordings. I have already signed up and listened to the 3 pre-summit videos which were sent after registration which were phenomenal:

• 5 Steps to Healing Leaky Gut
• Secrets to Overcome Candida & Yeast
• The Immune-Cancer Connection

I am so passionate about this topic right now, and will be posting daily on Facebook in January with each presenters outline.

Wishing you a very happy, healthy and prosperous new year!


In the next blog I’ll share the 9 signs of gut disbiosis and the 5 types of leaky gut we are likely to experience